Dating : Does the girl always have to be out of the guy’s league for a happy relationship?
I am in my early 30s so I have come across many many couples lately. The first thing I do is a quick comparison of which of the two in the relationship is hotter… more often than not, it’s the girl. Does a girl always have to settle for a guy who is less attractive? Let me rephrase. Does a HAPPY girl have to settle for a guy less attractive than her? I don’t mean “settle” in an insulting way. I just realized there’s no such thing as a marriage of equals. And on average, if the girl is less attractive than her mate, he starts getting bored. I feel he starts looking for a woman elsewhere. If the girl is always a “chase” and he feels luckily to be with her, then that girl will never have to worry.
Am I crazy. I’m waiting for someone to prove my theory wrong. If the guy is more attractive than the girl, what’s the catch? Does she come from money? Is she the breadwinner? Does he get something from her?
Is there such a thing as a marriage of equals physically?
Its the other way around actually
LOL, you are most obviously a woman, men would never write something like that.
Had it ever crossed your mind that your attraction basis for men is highly skewed?
It was proven that women only find 20% to be above average looking, so a guy in the 80th percentile could look average to you even though he is in the top 20% percent.
But you are correct though, because of this most women settle on attractiveness of their partner.
Actually I quite agree with this analysis.
As an at very best only average level attractive person I have seen many cases where both parties were objectively extremely attractive.
I really dont agree with this, all my married friends are pretty much equal looks wise. I see that with the older generation but assume they were equally attractive at the beginning
Nope, my gf and I are the same ‘league’ when we met she thought i was out /above hers(atleast thats what she says now).
> I don’t mean “settle” in an insulting way
dont lie to yourself please you deserve better than lies
Honestly… I don’t know why you guys are mad. Men are visual, so they typically go for the hottest thing they can get. Girls give in and fall I love with the guy that treats them well, and it is usually not the guy who is as attractive as her. #facts. He’s less attractive and gives her the world. Bc he chased and got someone “worth” the chase
I feel if a woman is fat, she is screwed. It’s a sad reality. I am not just talking vanity pounds.
I had two coworkers. Both 50 something year old dads. One had a hot girlfriend. One’s wife was 200 lbs. The guy with the hot girlfriend showed her off. The other guy felt embarrassed. He felt the need to overcompensate and say that his wife didn’t look like the pic he showed me and that she’s gotten slimmer. I didn’t even ask.
So.. regardless of age, race and culture, men (more so than women) are only satisfied with a prettier partner.
Actually women marry preferrably upwards in social hierarchies whereas men marry both sideways and downwards but very rarely upwards.
Social hierarchies are made of much more than just looks: Reputation/being sociable, health, wealth, intelligence (i.e. the ability to attain wealth), being part of a special group etc.
Also men usually rise in their social status when they get older whereas women usually fall. Which explains that in many long lasting marriages men are quite a few years older which explains the appearance that women would look better then men in working marriages.
> *I don’t mean “settle” in an insulting way*
No, you absolutely do. What do you think belittling is? You have an entire narrative in this diatribe.
But lets get past all this nonsense, right down to the real nitty gritty. Your statistics are whack due to extremely tiny sample pool and injecting your own POV to the observation.