Dating : Dont know the method on how to get to the first date
Hi all,
I graduated from college and I am working now but I don’t have a girlfriend. I plan to meet girls at volunteer places, activites places hosted by colleges, meetups, workplace and activities places hosted by cities.
However, I just don’t know what the process is from meeting a girl first time to finally asking her on the first date. When I talk to girls before, they chat for several occasions and they don’t even respond anymore later and sometimes I don’t know the real reasons behind this. Can someone please walk me all through the steps on detail and how to ultimately make the move in all the places I listed above? What type of girls should I talk to that will lead to a first date in the places I listed before? What do I say intially when I meet them in person? How do I continue the conversation in person and through texting? When do I ask the girl her contact details i. e. Social media, phone number? When should I ask the girl for the first date and how (texting or in person) ? What do i need to say when i ask them on the first date? What should I do if the girl ignores me or acts inappropriate before the first date?
I really hope to make a move this year and want to ensure I know the correct process.
Thanks for all help!
Google “Dating essentials for men” by Dr. Robert Glover. It will walk you through the process.
(25M) Definitely use Meetup or be in a social setting to where you can talk to people for a good chunk of time. Practice talking with people, breaking the ice, guiding conversations, and learning about people. Try to get warmed up before talking to a girl that you think is attractive. If the conversation goes good then ask if you can take her on a date sometime and trade numbers. Make sure you are direct and make clear that you’d like to date her. I’ve been told by women that they liked knowing my intentions early on, since most guys act like they wanna their number to be friends.
Also at the end of each meetup when you get home make sure you write « Hope you made it home safe, and it was great meeting you! ». Then in 1-3 days setup a date with a defined location/date/time. Don’t ask where they wanna go, you take the lead. They’ll let you know if they need to adjust the date/time. Also, bonus points if you setup the date for an activity you both enjoy or that she wants to do by using clues from your conversation with her earlier.
Make sure you check the weather, go to the location beforehand so nothing suprises you (I’ve had many things come up I wouldn’t even think about), make reservations if needed, and wear appropriate clothes/shoes. The morning of the day of the date, text her that you made the reservations and you are looking forward to seeing her at (date time).
I had very little experience dating, but this past month I’ve gone on dates with 3 different women, and on the 4th date with the girl I’m currently seeing. If you have any specific questions let me know!
A good thing that worked out for me was becoming comfortable having conversation with anyone. I used to be a really shy person unless I knew someone well. When it came to talking to women, the rest seemed to work itself out.
Be yourself. Be honest. Be confident.
Get the girl talking compliment her on how she looks, ask what she likes to do: movies, bowling, sports?
What kind of food does she like?
Coffee?
Milkshakes?
Those are my tips but depending on the person obviously change it up some to gain some ground.
At some point asking the question if she’s seeing someone should come up as well.