Dating : Even if she’s not « girlfriend material, » she deserves to be treated with respect
Even if it’s a hook up.
Even if you think she’s crazy.
She’s giving you her body, and trusting you. She is human and deserves respect.
Edit: YES this applies going from girls to guys as well.
Edit: One would really think this is a no brainer but the amount of pushback in the comments is unsurprising and kind of depressing.
Edit: To those who are saying « if she’s willing to give sex and open her legs she doesn’t respect herself and doesn’t deserve it, well if YOU are willing to sleep with her or someone that doesn’t show self respect, that means that YOU don’t actually respect yourself all that much. » Also just because someone wants sex that doesn’t mean they don’t respect themselves, they are just looking for a good time just like YOU are. That means giving them an orgasm if they gave you one, making them feel safe, and respecting boundaries. Also keeping whatever is private in the bedroom and not declaring it to your friends (if it wasn’t agreed upon).
Edit: What do I mean by respect? I don’t mean treating her like your gf, but I do mean just treating her like a human and not saying shit like « if she opened up her legs that means she doesn’t deserve respect. » Also respecting her sexual boundaries in bed even though she’s not your gf. No pouting and no expecting X,Y,Z to happen JUST because she’s in your bed.
Edit: And, lastly, if you feel you can’t handle doing all this then maybe you need to lower the amount of people you are hooking up with so they can all be treated with respect.
The people that need to be told this don’t listen anyway.
I never get why people (I’m sure the whole gender spectrum) will treat people they are dating casually, or seriously for that matter, so crappily, when they are polite to strangers… I dunno. I’ve been out with guys who are scrupulously polite to baristas or waitresses but total dicks in private. It’s weird and sucks. I wish posting something like this would help, but I already see a bunch of garbage in response, so, I’m guessing, no… but I’m sorry if something like this happened to you because it’s really shitty. And unkind. People can be awful.
Giving of bodies is mutual. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect.
Yeah, there’s a blatant lack of respect in this stupid-ass hook-up culture. Even if these dudes are not straight-up cussing you out and calling you outside of your name – being silent, dismissive and uncommunicative is still disrespectful and hurtful – especially if you’ve already been intimate.
Thank you, it means a lot for someone to say this as people don’t care often these days
It amazes me how many men that have wanted to sleep with me couldn’t treat me like a human being which is literally the bare minimum. what actually makes you think this kind of behavior will get you laid??? I wouldn’t even talk to some one like that in my free time why the fuck would I let them put their penis literally inside me?
🙂 respect everyone
We did it reddit. We solved disrespect.
To me the issue is that women’s worth as people seems to diminish the more sex they have while men’s doesn’t. They can sleep around and they are still considered boyfriend/marriage material. That double standard is incredibly stark and seems to be very difficult to get rid of.
Shitty men wouldn’t respect girlfriend material either.
Assholes and selfish people exist in this world and guess what? they are both men and women.
It’s not your fault.
Some people suck, maybe be smarter next time about who you associate with.
Yeah that whole mentality of « if she puts out on the first date, she must sleep with everyone » needs to die out. As long as a person is safe about it and doesn’t hurt anyone then what do I care. Personally, if a girl wanted to sleep with me early on, I took it as a good sign as she finds me attractive enough to want to have sex with me. Not that I ever expected it, nor should anyone, it’s just the date would go good enough and it just ended up that way.
I might be the minority but it’s not mutually exclusive to want sex or make out and also want something serious. Again, not saying that it should be that way all the time, but everyone goes at their own pace. Some people wait till the 2nd or 3rd date to even kiss and that’s ok.
Had this happen to me and I struggle with depression so I put up with the guy disrespecting me (had attachment issues). It started off as one casual hook up where we then agreed to be FWBs. From there, it went downhill. There was no communication and my texts would just be ignored. The one time I decided to go to him rather than him to me, he showed me his true colors. He got off and then was completely dismissive of me. I then complained and it went into a whole ordeal which ended with him refusing to look at me while I tried to talk to him about him failing to please me in return. But thank you for posting this. I wish more guys would understand that anything sexual requires respect. She’s agreeing to have sex with you as you are her. If she’s ‘’easy’’ then so are you. Respect is key to any arrangement in order for it to be enjoyable.
Also I’m giving her my body and I deserve respect too, let’s all fucking respect our fucks
I, hopefully, treat everybody with respect. But boi if I am not receiving some respect back she can honestly fuck off. Respect works two ways in my opinion. (To clarify, in my scenario we are both women soo yes women deserve all the respect!)
Yes! Not just women. Every human should be treated with dignity and respect. That’s what normal humans do
I totally understand what you are saying but hook up culture is inherently toxic.
It leaves the guys valuing woman less and less and it leaves the woman feeling used.
Everyone, regardless of race, job, gender, sexuality, age, hobbies, promiscuity (I have… no idea how to write this in a more polite manner), financial status, psychological and mental state, and generally any human being an in some cases animals, deserve a certain amount of base respect.
Like, the amount of people that think it’s OK to treat people like shit because they think they’re above others is disgusting.
I needed to see this! I’m so glad you posted this. I’ve been thinking about texting my old hookup because I REALLY miss him :/ so thanks for talking some sense into me!!
Respect is reciprocal. We hookup with each other. We give each other our bodies.
I agree with you until she’s disrespectful herself.
Yep, everybody deserves respect. I’m a man and I find disgusting how some men talk about women.
The required edits are absolutely hilarious
Any man who looks down on a woman for sleeping with him, must have a very low level of respect for themselves..
This goes both ways
Every girl deserves to be treated with respect. Every person, really.