Dating : Ever got ghosted/ditched after things were seemingly going great? Share your story, let’s cope together
I got ditched last night. It was so confusing, our dates and conversations were great and thoughtful. She even said wanted a relationship with me. Then her response time got longer and longer. Till the point where it was damn near a week. I decided to confront her about my fears and sure enough I was right. She admitted that she wasn’t feeling any type of romantic pull and she wanted to like me but she couldn’t. She said I was a really nice guy, cool and caring but I just someone she couldn’t be with.
Not gonna lie this isnt the first time this happened to me. Like I did everything right then why dump me?
Ig life just isn’t fair. Doesn’t need to be an explanation. This is causing me to have trust issues man. Like why put so much effort doing the right thing when it really don’t matter cause that person’s feelings will change about you without warning?
Met a girl on Bumble. We talked for hours, and went on a great date. She said she had a great time, and wanted to see me again. We talked everyday through text and phone calls, but things kept coming up on the days we scheduled our dates. Then outta nowhere she just stopped talking to me. This happens constantly, and it’s really turning me off the dating scene
iv had dates with girls where i thought it went well to the point where they said « we should meet up again » or agreed to meet up when i suggested it. when i reached out to them again for date #2, i never got a response.
Speaking as a female, this has absolutely happened to me. We talked for close to nine hours daily on Tinder leading up to the date. We spent six hours in the park and all the signs were there: he kept trying to lean in, had his hand on my leg, and initiated a kiss. Unfortunately he had « warned » me prior to our date that he had just gotten out of a relationship a week ago, and was I sure I wanted to go on a date with him? Being blind to his quirkiness, humor, and good looks, I overlooked it. Huge mistake. The texting trickled down until there was nothing left. He cancelled the second date twice and I ended up deleting him out of spite Tried to contact him a month later but turns out, he blocked me. He got in my head; I just couldn’t get over it. LOL
This shit happens all the time on dating apps. Sometimes it’s better to just take the leap and ask out a girl you think is cute IRL. I’ve been hoping and praying that happens to me before I make yet another online dating profile.
i’m sorry about this! one of the greater things about that interaction is that you got a solid answer from her, that might help with closure. however, it is really hard after things seemed to be going awesome and you get blindsided. i’m going through this right now, but i didnt get any closure from it just complete ghosting. i’m working on trying to be more evolved and reflect that their actions and disinterest is more about them than it is me. and why would i want to force something that wasn’t meant to be and isn’t panning out the way i want anyway? thanks for sharing your story it makes me feel a bit better about my situation right now.
Long story short – Dated a girl for almost 4 months, everything was perfect. The last time we saw each other we were up late talking, made it official, she gave me this momento that she said meant a lot to her and wanted me to have etc. Next day, everything was fine, flirting texting etc. The day after that, radio silence. She sent a random text a couple weeks after saying she might want to talk about it sometime, but not sure. Haven’t heard back. It stung bad, especially since she still watches all my social media stories… which is kinda weird. Spent a few months in a really low spot, went on a few dates with different people but wasn’t into it and still thinking about her, low self esteem, questioning myself, etc. It started to slowly get better. Then I met someone, honestly, it was like a light switch. I went from missing this this girl to not caring and almost feeling bad for her. The only thing that sucks is I’m at times still a bit unsure about this new girl, kinda like a limp from an injury, there still is a bit of insecurity that this other girl left me with. It’s like emotional herpes, that is carrying into my new relationship. But to be honest, I’m happy now. I still have those lingering trust issues, but I can’t dwell on that. When you’re ghosted it’s literally one of the worst things a person can do to another. But then the switch happens. It takes time, but when you let go and start meeting other people, it gets better. You start to realize what everything you read and what your friends told you “that it’s them not you” is definitley true. Once the self doubt goes, you go from wanting even just the smallest bit of recognition, to not even caring and it honestly is the best feeling in the world. Still sadly not a feeling anyone should have to endure.
I hope this little rant may help anyone who has been ghosted. Just my perspective.
Get used to it mate women are heartless cunts