Dating : Ever hate and love being alone?
I was just sitting here and having a conversation with another reddit user. Normal conversation, talking about hobbies and my art passions. I realized that I don’t have much outside of art–and that’s fine. But I took a minute to look around my apartment and just kind of… Smiled big. I have my roommate but even when he’s around…. I’ve come to learn, I love being alone. I have a small circle with minimal drama. I indulge in my art, writing, painting-etc.
It’s.. really peaceful and fun. I used to hate being alone in every single way but now I feel so incredibly free, like I’m actually am and going to be okay I’m not inhibited or giving my life or worrying… I’m stable on my own I’ve discovered. Cool but fucking whack. I can make a list but it’s kinda awesome liking myself again and seeing that the little things I have in my life that I’ve earned on my own? That’s the shit.
BUT I MISS THE PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL TOUCH. I miss the person I used to have right– and like– damnit dude 😂 the head rubs, both ways! And snuggling into his back or being the little spoon, kisses up and down his arms, those head kisses. I can make a list.– The emotional intimacy that was healthy, the deep talks and belly laughs, the sexual intimacy and wild, lustful energy that I feel fine without and not looking for- BUT FUCK
I LOVE BEING ALONE BUT I MISS THE TOUCH SO MUCH. his specifically, but like in general as well. A deprived snuggle bug 😭
Ya feel me??? 😂😂😂
As someone who lived alone for several years during college, I appreciate and love my space. I could never date someone and have them constantly with me or knowing every single detail of every second of my day. I guess living alone for year’s, but also enjoying that independence is the reason i’m like this.
I do like the intimacy and the process of getting to know someone/dating, I just needsomeone who respects my boundaries. I think establishing that very early with someone you’re interested in is vital. We sometimes get caught up, and don’t take that into account, but if the other person doesn’t say anything or hint at at it… It’s in some ways their own doing.
This is a very normal way to feel!
Solitude is really seductive. Free to do whatever you want with your time, free of demands, free of stress from other people. It’s serene. But yeah, the physical side can be sorely missed.
I think with the right partner you don’t really have the need to be alone anymore. But that partner might be rare for you to find.
Jesus Christ girl it’s like you pulled those words straight from my head