Dating : Feeling strange when somebody likes you
In the past few months I’ve become very self aware when interacting with people. One of the things I’ve noticed is the strange feeling I get when a guy is attracted to me or wants to spend time with me. This feeling also occurs when any person in general wants to be friends with me. I am just not used to it and I feel surprised when it happens because of previous experiences. I’ve never really had friends and I’ve had a lot of bad “friends” who treated me poorly and weren’t actually my friends. I’ve had a lot of bad experiences with guys involving them calling me ugly or annoying. So I find it hard to believe when someone is actually into me or actually enjoys my company.
The thing is, I don’t even think that I’m ugly or annoying. I think that I’m a good friend, I just have trust issues and don’t connect to people easily. My previous trauma with friends and guys have massively contributed to these issues and that’s why I am so shocked when people actually include me in their conversations or activities. I’ve gotten so accustomed to nobody liking me at all. Guys still don’t like me that often but when they do, part of me thinks that they’re lying, or that they will change their mind (also from a previous experience).
Am I the only one who has experienced this?
Well when the only norm you experienced was negative interactions which developped a « self protection » mindset, of course being confronted to the opposite makes it feel like « it’s unusual, theres something behind it ».
You have to get used to normal feelings and interactions back. It can take time.
Please get some therapy. It may help.