Dating : First Date in 4 Years … Blown Off
SET UP: I recently broke with a girl I’d been dating for 4 years. We met in high school and had a ‘life event/travel’ type of relationship. Only in the past week or two have I been considering dating and casual sex again.
I was at work at a coffee shop when a pretty chick asked for my number. I was surprised an gave it to her. We text for a bit and I ask her to lunch, she agrees and the date is on.
The day before the date she messages me asking for my Instagram saying her sister wants to see a photo of me. I give her my account handle. The next text I get says “don’t worry about tomorrow. You’ve gotta girl :)))”. Clearly she snooped into my insta and saw my ex girl. I archived the obvious posts of her but there were a couple of other photos of in there she must have found.
I say ‘ That’s my ex’ and leave it till the morning. She didn’t reply, I messaged her saying that was a really past thing and I’m just keen to have lunch and meet her. She didn’t even open the message. After the time of the date was passed I just deleted her number.
I just needed to vent because it really was my first shot in so long. I don’t even feel like I did anything wrong but I’ve gone through and cleaned my socials. Honestly, part of me doesn’t mind because I didn’t loss anything in the situation as she came to me randomly. But I am disappointed because I did have my hopes up to go on a date.
Do you think this was a weird move on her part? Maybe I was too needy? Any advice is welcome
Lesson learned, delete Instagram.
Honestly, you really don’t want that girl. She lied, made assumptions about you and was rude. It’s not a loss man, there are many women out there who are better than that.