Dating : Getting into Dating
Hello! I’ve never really delved too deep into the dating and it’s a bit overwhelming to figure out to get into, especially when getting mixed ideas and experiences from all over the place in social settings. Right now I am 19 turning 20 in barely over a week, and I am in a decent place in life, make good money at my job and know what I want to do with life, and I am perfectly happy being on my own and doing my own thing, but it’d be nice to start going out and get closer to people, just to add more to life.
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I have a decent social life, I go out with friends, have some online groups I talk to or play games with a lot, and waiting tables I meet a wide array of people on a weekly basis, but that’s about it, I mean when I go out with friends I’m there to have fun and hang out, not to meet anyone or make any moves, I’ve had people leave me numbers at work, but I /really/ don’t like that, since I am just doing my job, same as before, I am not at work to meet people, and that makes it an awkward situation, especially because I feel bad not doing anything, but I’m not interested at the same time, and same deal when I go out, I’m not going to flirt or leave numbers or anything with people at places, because they could be out just have a good time, or working, and don’t to invade that privacy or make their awkward/stressful.
I’ve considered downloading dating apps like Tinder or Bumble to meet people, but that’s where the serious mixed bag comes in from people that I know (coworkers and friends), some say it’s okay, some that it sucks, that they can’t meet anyone that really sticks on these places, and it becomes a mix « it’s something » and others saying « it’s not worth it » so I feel conflicted and at a loss for what to do, which is why I wanted to get some opinions, thoughts, and experiences from people on here.
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Should I just wait and see if I meet someone going about with daily life? Are those apps like Tinder/Bumble a good start or avoid them? Anyone else have experiences like this in there life, and if so, how’d you work it out? If you don’t use the dating apps, what’s the best way you’ve handled meeting new people in the dating scene?
