Dating : Ghosted
I don’t care for this girl anymore. She ghosted me this weekend. I spent my 30th birthday alone after she rescheduled (didn’t know it was my birthday bc I didn’t want to pressure her). I shattered my ankle Saturday, got picked up by an ambulance, and spent the day in the hospital. The drugs stopped me from holding back my tears when the multiple doctors and nurses asked about my nonexistent support network. I still found time to ask about her weekend, wish her goodwill. Nothing back even though we’d been talking for weeks.
I’ve been ghosted before, it’s best to forget it, but this time I want to say something. I just don’t know what. I’d tell her my story, but I don’t think I deserve the silence I could expect after sending it.
After sitting in the ER for 6hrs, I went out on a limb and texted a girl I didn’t quite get along with. She picked me up from the hospital and went grocery shopping for me the next day. She said she wouldn’t have if she was busy. Maybe she was being honest, but she still did it.
The friend I was biking to when I shattered my ankle responded “no worries” nonchalantly when I texted her about the accident moments after.
Granted, I barely know any of these girls.
I have surgery on Wednesday and am not allowed to walk on my leg for 8 weeks. They’re leaving a catheter in my leg so I can do local anesthetic nerve blocks on demand for two days before I have to take it out myself. I still don’t have a ride to/from surgery. The general anesthetic is going to make me vomit and dry heave for a long time afterward. Not sure how I’m going to fare all alone. I might have to ask the second girl if she’ll help me. I don’t know how to repay her for what she’s done already.
Man I feel for you, not a lot I can say to help you but just stay strong my guy. If you need someone to talk to just send me a DM
it really sounds like you have some shitty people in your life. or, well not anymore. you definitely need better friends. I know, you’re feeling awful now. Just know that you’re enough, that you’re valued and that it will get better.
Don’t be sad, you’re going through a hard time and it will get better I promise. I would suggest yes maybe ask one of the girls to be with you during this time and repay her with an awesome date and dinner. That’s the least you can do if she has picked you up taken you for groceries etc.
After that, I would look for a support network or community near you. Maybe even like volunteering or at an animal shelter or anything you’re passionate about. You can meet good people that way