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Dating : Girl insisted on getting my number then when texted to go out she’s saying she’s busy ALL TIME

Dating : Girl insisted on getting my number then when texted to go out she’s saying she’s busy ALL TIME


This has happened so many times to me over the years that has made me really wonder why.

I (29) met a girl (~24yo) last night for the first time (she was with a friend), she asked me if I had a lighter and after giving her the lighter we kept chatting for approx 20 minutes and they insisted that we keep in touch so we exchanged numbers, then later at night I send her few messages and said that enjoyed the talk and we should go for a coffee sometime this afternoon. Then she said that she’s quite busy but yeah hopefully we go one day. Then I tried to figure out her schedule and she said that yeah basically she’s always busy..I didn’t insist further and the conversation ended there..

If she’s not interested why so much enthusiasm in getting your number?

People out there please help me figure out what’s happening.. this has happened quite a few times

What do you think?

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  1. > Then she said that she’s quite busy but yeah hopefully we go one day. Then I tried to figure out her schedule and she said that yeah basically she’s always busy..

    Welcome to the friendzone.

    > If she’s not interested why so much enthusiasm in getting your number?

    Because just like how guys will sleep with a woman theyd never date, women will happily bask in the attention of men theyd never date.

  2. Give her less than 2 weeks.

    Go ask out another girl (preferably someone you like) ,,, or at least pretend and tell her that you did. (give a day of when a date will happen)

    And ask her if she’s in the mood to go on a date b4 the date with the other girl.

    Obviously you’re not good enough for her to even schedule a pre-date planning ,, but still you gotta test whether she has low interest in you or no interest.

    You are 29 years old. You are getting older.

    There’s a vague number of days in your head on how long you should wait b4 moving on . Surely it’s not 0 days and surely it’s not 100 years.

    So ask yourself. What’s the actual number of days allowed for her to possibly string you along ?

  3. She just changed her mind between when she gave the number and when you tried to get a date.

    Had you called with a voice call you would have had an advantage since all the other guys would be texting and you would have stood out in the crowd, but it still may have been too late by then.

    However the way you offered the date was the standard cliche attempt that was probably verbatim what the last 10 guys she met said to her. « *Let’s go for coffee sometime* ». You didn’t stand out in the crowd (women have way more options than guys do),…you need to stand out in the crowd.

    Coffee dates are the fast track to the friend zone. So are Daytime Date in general. You need to start out in the right Frame. That Frame is the romantic context, not the friend & buddy context. Don’t do things that she would do with her girlfriends,…don’t be the male version of one of her girlfriends. So pick an activity and venue worthy of a romantic date.

    Never say « sometime ». Always have an exact day/time/place in mind. Always have a plan made up in your head first before you even make the offer. Present it as a offer not a question,… »Let’s go do.. », instead of « Would you like to go do… ». Some women have busy schedules so it may be hard to pick and exact time, so ask them « When are you free to… », but then from that point you need to present the rest as specific things. However it is still better to pick and exact day/time as much as you can.

  4. > she said that she’s quite busy but yeah hopefully we go one day.

    She’s not interested.

    Women will swap phone numbers quite casually. It’s rarely a sign of interest on its own.

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