Dating : Great first date but he isn’t over ex – reconnect in future?
So, a few weeks ago I (25f) went on a first date with this guy ( 31m, met on dating app, he asked me out), it went really well, possibly one of the first dates I’ve been on! The conversation flowed well, we had a lot in common, I assume we were both very attracted to each other, at the end of the date we kissed and he said he wanted to see me again. We didn’t go back to each other’s places. That evening we texted each other after the date saying we had fun.
A couple of days later I texted him asking how he was and he replied, with a fairly succinct message letting me know he really enjoyed the date, but he realized he’s not ready to date again because it’s too soon since his last breakup. We didn’t mention anything about reconnecting in future but the conversation ended on a friendly note. We haven’t been in contact since.
I’m a little bummed though as I thought we got on really well, I know it was only one date but I feel like there was so much potential there. Do you think he was just letting me down nicely and he simply wasn’t interested, or do you think something could happen further down the line? If so, should I hit him up in a few months? Funnily enough, I also very recently broke up with someone but it wouldn’t stop me at all from dating someone I really liked, hence why I wonder if it was just an excuse.
> I also very recently broke up with someone (and I told him this in response to his message), but it wouldn’t stop me at all from dating someone I really liked, hence why I wonder if it was just an excuse.
Perfectly valid excuse. Who knows how long he was in a relationship previously and how long hes been broken up but it can definitely take some time to get over a relationship and be ready to be in a new one.
I think it depends, he probably might have just ended a relationship that he really cherished and cannot let go for now, but you can still try to initiate texts with him to see where it goes.
Ofcourse there is. Maybe this guy is really messes up and doesn’t want to ruin something that may be beautiful by jumping in to quickly. Just initiate texting every once in a while (not daily, but maybe once or twice a week) and retry again in a few weeks.
Hit it and quit it, there’s no future there imo.