Dating : Guys, please stop using your height as the reason why you can’t get dates
I’m a 30 year old dude who’s good looking and athletic. I also stand at a massive 5’9. This hasn’t stopped me from getting dates, hooking up, whatever
Have I met/talked to girls who rejected me because I wasn’t tall enough? Yes. I’ve also been rejected for not being white, not being the right religion, whatever. But those were the minority; most women didn’t nitpick things like that. And besides, why would I want to date someone with that kind of attitude anyways?
I’ve seen so many posts/comments on dating subreddits from guys complaining about wishing they were taller, « girls are so shallow nowadays », etc. I’ll be blunt: it’s all a load of bullshit. This mindset is nothing more than resorting to a negative generalization to deflect the actual problems at hand, namely insecurity and poor attitude
I’ve been on dates with girls shorter than me, girls that were my height, and even a couple of girls who were an inch or two taller than me. None of it bothered me. I’m aware I’m average height, but there’s nothing I can do about that. What I can do, and have been doing, is work on myself and avoid having negative thoughts
Something else to keep in mind: I prefer brunettes, but I still go out with other types if I feel like there’s a connection worth exploring. For many women, a height preference is just that: a preference. If someone genuinely enjoys you, they’re not going to be bothered that you’re a couple of inches shorter than what they want. And if they do, again, *that person is not someone you want to be with anyways*
But if you continue with a negative, self-defeating attitude and insecurity about height, of course nothing’s going to happen. I, and many other guys my height, can tell you that there’s PLENTY of girls who don’t care about whether you’re six feet tall or not
Edit: After posting this, I started wondering how many girls put a height requirement in their dating profiles just to weed out all the insecure guys who complain about height, not because they actually care about how tall a dude is. I’d do it