Dating : Have I ruined this?
Been texting this girl for a few weeks now after getting her number at a bar. She asked me what my craziest night out was and I told her the whole story which included how I was hit on by a few different girls. I enjoy taking to her and I didn’t think I’d get carried away like that and didn’t stop to think that mentioning something like that would be a bad idea.
We kept talking for another 30 minutes or so afterwords and she seemed fine. The conversation fizzled out kind of naturally since we were talking for a few hours at that point
We have a date planned for next Friday so I’m really dreading that I’ve messed this up – probably should also mention that I’m completely new to dating.
Don’t freak out. It’s not ruined until it’s ruined. If you make it a big deal, it’ll become a big deal. And if she gets miffed and pissed about the PAST that doesn’t indicate bad character on your part, she’s not emotionally mature and you don’t need that kind of drama in your life. Keep going like nothing happened.
I definitely wouldn’t say anything more about that story or about your dating skills. Just be normal with her and message her well in advance for the date.
If you were telling the truth she thinks you are lying anyways.
> which included how I was hit on by a few different girls.
Why would this ruin anything? Did you include the fact that you and these girls had an unprotected five-way in the dirty bathroom at the club and they all gave you different STD’s?
Maybe don’t bring it up again, but I don’t see why this would be an issue. Unless I’m missing something fundamental about dating. Which is quite likely.
Probably not.
If you told her about some degenerate orgy you might have a problem, but getting hit on by some girls? It’s extremely unlikely that she will care. If she takes you at your word, she will probably enjoy the fact that other girls consider you interesting enough to hit on.
Uh you have a date planned. Stop texting and save convo for the date.
> **Have I ruined this?**
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> Been texting this girl for a few weeks now after getting her number at a bar.
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You’re not doing yourself any favours. STAY OFF THE PHONE. Stop texting, stop talking.
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Give her some space and time to WONDER or you WILL talk her out of liking you.
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Here’s one I prepared earlier: [https://youtu.be/fG2eBGeQKVY](https://youtu.be/fG2eBGeQKVY)
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p.s. I know your question wasn’t « Am I texting too much » but, you are.