Dating : Have you ever asked for a 2nd chance after being dumped? If so, how did that go?
I was broken up with a month ago, and I am still stuck on her. I’ve been contemplating writing a message asking for a 2nd chance.
How has your experience been?
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I have never asked for a second chance because I respect people’s desires and boundaries. I think you need to accept her decision and figure out why you can’t move on from her through therapy.
She broke up with you for a reason. Let her be. Go on dates with other people, make new friends, etc, and begin the moving on process.
Oh gawd, first of all DON’T WRITE ANYTHING! It will fall flat on it’s face.
If you’re going to try anything, you need to see her in person. But she dumped you. Anything you say will come off as needy and desperate to her.
I have gotten two exes back and I will tell you how I did it and this is THE ONLY WAY.
First, improve your look. If your fat, lose weight. If you’re weak, get in shape. The more physically attractive you are, the easier this will be.
Next, get some attractive female friends to hang out with. Who cares if they’ve friendzoned you, that doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are hanging out with some hot girls, preferably more attractive than your ex.
Your ex doesn’t know you’re not sleeping with those girls and you’re not going to even say you are, she just needs to think there’s a possibility you’re sleeping with them.
The reason for all this is that she left you because she believes she can do better than you. Women don’t leave guys who have a higher social status than they do, they leave guys who they believe have a LOWER social status.
Getting into shape, dressing better and showing you have options will get her to do the all important thing which is to MESSAGE YOU.
You see, she left you, she MUST reach out to YOU first. Nothing you do, no amount of sad whining, long heartfelt messages or even standing under her window holding a boombox ala John Cusack in Say Anything will work.
Do what I recommend and she’ll be back. Ignore it and push her away forever.
It’s only after you’ve lost everything that you’re free to do anything.
Good luck king.
I did several times with the same girl at different times. When she said yes it lasted for a bit and then we go to the same place. When she said no we stayed in some weird situationship where she came and went as she pleased. It went on for 4 years I was cheated on and felt very used and hurt. Im still getting over it 1 year on and It made future relationships harder. Unless you have a really tangible issue that can be fixed I’d say it’s not worth it, even then most things can be worked around.
Personally i tell myself that as tempting as it is to send a message, ive came in conclusion that i simply cannot go back. Can only move forward. I miss her at times through these months, but it wont lead nowhere, need time to heal.
C‘mon man have some self respect.
Walk away keep it moving