Dating : his parents don’t approve of me
my boyfriend’s parents don’t approve of me cause he is asian and they expect him to be with a fellow asian which i am not. it really sucks because they have yet to meet me but already do not like me and want us to break up. they make fun of him abt it too and i can tell it gets to him sometimes but he said he would never break up with me because of his parents and i believe he is being genuine but it bothers me to the point where i cry so far it hasnt messed up our relationship but i feel like in the future it will
edit : y’all really discouraged me omg 💀
One of my best friends is in the same situation. He is 27 and Vietnamese and is now married to his white wife. Dont let their narrow minded old school ways get in the way of your love. They are very much happy together and if you guys are, i’m sure you will continue to be that way. There will be difficult moments, but never forget the bigger picture
Which race are you?
You just got a lesson in how older adults with children can make terrible decisions.
You aren’t dating his parents.
Get out of there. Known several nice girls/friends have tough lives due it. One pregnant and dumped. One only accepted after a grandson came along and the parents have now moved in. Depression etc. don’t do it
Asians are super closed minded. And actually admittedly racist. Specifically against blacks, people from India, and people from the Middle East. Im not sure why, that’s just how they are and I’ve asked my cousins about it and they say “that’s just the way it is” and they act like it normal. It’s repulsive to me. As a half Asian/half Caucasian male my mom (Asian) is super judgmental on who I date. So I just don’t tell her. It’s her own fault. It used to bother me a lot when I was younger but it’s my life so I’ll do what I want.
Hopefully your boyfriend can be fine going against what his parents think – something that is difficult for some Asian males I’ve noticed. I wouldn’t lose sleep over it on whether you’re “approved” by his parents. Like someone else mentioned, you’re dating him, not his parents. Good luck!
Just tell them its all pink on the inside and to stop being racist.
You should break up, that will be a lifelong struggle with their family. It’s the downside of inter racial dating, not all families are as accepting.
It really depends on your boyfriend more than his parents. If he stands up for you and shows you by actions that he has your back and the relationship, hes a keeper. If he doesnt, the relationship will come to an end eventually.
You being part black or anything that isnt pale like a vampire is usually a problem in the asian community. It can work, its just your partner needs to have a backbone.
Do not stress yourself out about this, as you are not at fault for your genes.
Keep your eyes open and see how he deals with them. Does he stand up to them and for you? Does he set boundaries? If not, be very careful. My husband has very traditional, Nigerian parents and he broke it off with his ex based on their advice. With me, he set firm boundaries and had my back the entire time.