Dating : Hobbies don’t define you.
Hey everyone, I know this might seem like a no brainer for most people out there but I am seeing a lot of post about people who think their hobbies define who they are. With that, they tend to think they need a partner who has the exact same hobbies or they won’t be compatible.
Not to sound too stereotypical. Guys, it is ok if you play video games or watch anime. Ladies it is ok if you like to watch the bachelorette and follow makeup reviews/tutorials on YouTube. The problem arises when you believe your hobbies define you or they are the only thing you can talk about.
Think about it. There is so much more to you. Friends, family, values, outdoor hobbies, travel plans, music, movies, foods, drinks, fitness, work, politics, religion, passions, goals, ideas, art, jokes, fashion, and the list goes on.
My point being it is ok to broaden your search and date someone who isn’t exactly like you. If one of your hobbies is a general turn off for your intended date, don’t let it define you. “Sure I like to ____, but it isn’t something I do 24/7. I think it is ok and healthy if we like different things. Sometimes we need space from each other and ___ helps me to relax.” If your date has a hobby that turns you off, show a little empathy.
Happy dating friends.
*** As a few people pointed out, if your hobbies aren’t in the scope of normally accepted hobbies by society, this probably doesn’t apply to you. But if you are a true societal deviant, you probably don’t care either. So to each their own!