Dating : How do I get over my first heartbreak?
Me and my first girlfriend just broke up and to be honest I’m completely lost.
Long story short we were dating for half a year until I told her I loved her. She said she only likes me and thinks we should end it because it’ll end up hurting me in the long run. Probably true.
I can’t get over her. She’s on my mind 24/7 and I can’t find the switch to turn it off. I removed all forms of communication and I still think about her. She was my my first real relationship I ever had and to watch all that time and effort go to waste really makes me sad.
So my question is
How did you get over your first heartbreak?
How do you stop thinking about someone that impacted your life so much?
How do I move forward?
Meet someone else. You were onmy together for 6 months lol. I’m guessing you’re in high school?
Go do things, even if you don’t feel like it
I got over it when i realized the beautiful feelings i felt were not because of her or any woman, but because i had such capacity to love. Those feelings are yours, and you’ll find someone new for whom to feel them.
Hey man, I know exactly what you’re going through. The same thing happened to me a couple months ago. When I told her I loved her she told me she didn’t reciprocate and that she cheated on me. I was devastated, depressed…you name it. I spent two weeks heavily drinking, and to the point where I would drink before class. I got anxiety attacks thinking about it to the point where I’d have to pull over on the side of the road if I were driving.
It’s going to be hard as hell, there’s no way around it. This is how it’s gonna go:
You’re gonna have a couple good minutes in the day when you’re not thinking about her and the rest of the day will suck. Slowly those minutes will turn into hours, which will slip into days, and then next thing you know it, you’re gonna realize it’s been a week since you thought about her.
The trick is to find stuff to do. Hang out with friends, pick up a new hobby, listen to a brand new genre of music. Just find something to put your mind at ease. I started eating better, working out, started to learn how to dj with my buddy, and even fulfilled a life long dream of fixing up a motorcycle.
Please do not heavily drink like I did. I did that and had a rough time. I hated myself and was in a really dark place. The only thing drinking might do is make it easier to fall asleep.
Delete her off of every platform of social media. Don’t text her or anything. It’s hard, it’s tempting, but it’s gonna hurt ya even more.
The positive thing about this though is that you have the capacity to love. You loved that girl and you spent a lot of time and energy towards making her happy because she made you happy. Now that she’s gone, you have to find something that will help fill that void. I assume you’re pretty young (as am I at 20 years old). Take a couple months and work on learning how to make yourself happy, and then start dating again. If you do the things you love you’ll find the right gal.
Getting back out there after a while is going to help. Talk to some girls casually, try to get more confidence. I’m actually going on my first date this week since the break up happened and I’m nervous but excited to move on with my life. Don’t let the hurt you feel deter you from the potential happiness and love of a beautiful relationship. Be brave man. You’ve got this. If you need any more advice or anything, please reach out to me and shoot me a pm. I know how lonely you can feel, it’s nice to talk the pain out.
Good luck brother
give youself some time. focus on yourself. keep yourself busy with school/work, friends. when you are ready, put yourself out there again.
What helped me the most was to remove everything from my life that reminded me of her