Dating : How do you make sure the first date goes well?
I went on a date recently and she seemed interested at first but I got the sense she wasn’t. We met up at an Italian place and despite being confident and asking her questions she seemed like she didn’t want to open up. What are some ways you can make sure the first date goes well? And what are some good conversation starters for the first date?
Dont approach date as an job interview cuz that’s boring and more work than it should be… instead just approach it as another day of hanging out and having fun. Choosing a right location is key because if your somewhere like an art gallery, u can ask tons about each other perspective on the art work. Woman like man who listen about their perspective.
There’s could be tons of reason why she isnt opening up, but at the end of the day you just havent made her comfortable enough around you. To fix this, putting some sense of humor is a great ice breaker.
Dates should just be fun. Barely consider them dates.
I don’t think there’s a sure fire way to guarantee first dates go well. Their success depends on lots of factors – physical attraction, nervous energy, common interests, shared values, chemistry etc Just be yourself, make sure to listen and engage with them (not make the conversation all about you) and go with the flow.
>What are some ways you can make sure the first date goes well?
Choose something light and short such as coffee or walk in the park. Save the Italian restaurant for a future date.
>And what are some good conversation starters for the first date?
You might be able to find some subjects from her profile bio or photos. Ask about her vacation, or dog, or whatever you see in the photos. Ask about her hobbies. Conversation just takes practice. And you can practice on anyone; doesn’t have to be on a date.
Speaking of experience, if you don’t offend me with a bad joke or intentionally, we will be good. And also, physical appearance matters as in you look the same as your pictures because I have expectations already?
It sounds like you either had a date who wasn’t that interested or who was a nervous introvert. If you liked her, ask for a second date and see if she’s more comfortable. My boyfriend doesn’t think our first date went as badly as I think it did, but he was an a total nervous wreck and I was his first date since his 20s. It was a disaster. He did everything wrong pretty much. I only agreed to a second date because the subtext of stuff he told me spoke of someone who was better than the nervous wreck sitting in front of me. I gave him some grace since I know what it’s like to go on that first date after being married 20 years. It’s good I gave him a couple more dates before writing him off completely. I love him so much now that it’s been a year. Personally I think a first date should be very casual. Coffee or drinks. Just a really preliminary getting to know you (unless you know them socially already and it’s the first official date but you’re already comfortable with one another). If you keep it casual it’s more comfortable and less likely to go wrong, and if it does go wrong you can get out of it and move on. It’s ok for there to not be chemistry. Dinner is too long and expensive for just meeting someone who may not be a good match for you.
Getting a kiss is a good sign. Extending the date too. Like meeting for a drink then after a couple of hours leaving and walking on the beach or shooting pool but the kiss is the best sign. Besides that, IDK there can be a lot of good signs but that is how I can tell it went well
She may have been more in it for the meal. Did you end up paying for it? Chances are she wasn’t really into you to begin with. It was just a night with nothing lined up and decided to go out for a meal or something to do. She has other offers and other guys on the go. Depending how long she has been at it, there probably isn’t a lot left in the area she hasn’t already done.
It becomes the same old boring routine after a while. Usually it is good to escalate to a date fairly fast after meeting someone. If they have genuine interest or show some desire they are down. I would avoid dinner dates until you make it to a second date. Better on the pocket book. It’s an investment with no return. She shows investment, you show investment back.
Lot’s of foodies out there now. Foodie dates are starting to trend. I am not saying she is like that, but it could always be a possibility. If the conversation isn’t flowing naturally, there isn’t any chemistry. A date truly is an interview for her to work at your « company », but it’s still a living, breathing human with feelings. Getting grilled with twenty questions can be off putting. Wasn’t for you. Just got to keep it moving. Sometimes you have to go through quite a few.