Dating : How many of you guys actually like black women?
Dating sucks as a black woman because most people don’t prefer black woman unless it is sex related with no strings attached. We are viewed as ugly, too dark, our hair is quote on quote too nappy and ugly and we are mostly seen as ratchet. I cant get attention from men unless it is writing or sex related. I hate my life, i’m tired of being single…..
It depends on the woman, there are black women I’m attracted to and others that I’m not, just like with asians, caucasians, mixed…
I like all women unfortunately they don’t want me.
I mostly don’t feel attracted to black women. With that said, I am currently in love with one as we speak.
It’s not about the colour of a persons skin, it’s about how they treat me and make me feel.
you are just meeting the wrong guys… I for one am Mexican and I looooooooooooove black women more than Latinas or any other for that matter.. black women are my preference there is just something about them that I like so much idk what it is.. I love the skin color too idk if that’s weird, if it is I am sorry.. but yeah black women are amazing… you just have to meet the right guy OP, love can come from the most unexpected places.. good luck
Currently crushing on a black girl, but I’m a bi girl and for some reason I’m wayyy more insecure about approaching girls then guys. I hear it a lot that black girls have more trouble dating. I don’t understand, honestly. Pretty much all black girls I’ve known have been one of the most unique awesome beautiful women out there.
I love em but I haven’t run into any that have been good for me so far. Always too conservative and too religious so far. I’m a white guy and I find them beautiful just like anyone else, in many cases even more.
I like black women. I don’t see why anyone wouldn’t.
Dating, if you’re actively looking for dates via sites apps etc, is very superficial. I don’t know what you look like, but if you’re not that attractive physically then try to develop other attractive qualities that high quality men want.
1. Be marriage material
1. Be emotionally mature and stable
2. Be a caring and considerate person
3. Be encouraging
4. Don’t be naggy
2. Be interesting
1. Have intellectual interests
2. Have hobbies which force you to cooperate with people to develop people skills
3. Have an interesting sport/exercise activity you like to do, something off beat like Lindy Hop or something.
3. Be active
1. Have hobbies where you get out of the house and you’re moving a lot, foraging for mushrooms (the non-hallucinogenic kind preferably) or mountain biking/hiking or something or even horseback riding if that’s more your style
2. Go to conferences about things you find interesting (great places to find like-minded people btw)
3. Do volunteer work (you’ll usually, 99% of the time, meet people who have personality qualities in this list)
4. Don’t do what you see on social media
1. Don’t try to be an instagram (lifestyle) model
2. Don’t get your social needs from social media, get it from social activities
3. I’d even suggest avoiding social media altogether (both for your own mental health and to avoid people judging you on something that isn’t really you). I quit social media 3 years ago and my social life, and mental life, improved measurably. Yes sometimes it’s a bit difficult to find social events which are advertised but you can make a sock account where you only join the groups you like and commit to only check for events.
5. Be funny
1. I rarely meet a woman that is actually funny, all four women that I find actually funny are black, and taken, unfortunately.
Looks is only one thing, there are all sorts of other qualities that men find desirable which attractive women don’t develop because they are too distracted with instagram and the attention they get from low quality men and high quality men who will soon lose interest because they’re soo shallow. Sure there are gems out there who are both attractive and marriage material, but they’re so few and there are so many men looking for quality women that you’ll definitely catch someone’s heart, even if it isn’t their eye (at first).
All these things help develop qualities that also make you a generally attractive person, which will be beneficial in all aspects of life, not only dating. So chin up girl, don’t be like the rest and become the very best ‘you’ you can be!
Edit: Slight clarification, additions and grammar improvements.
I’m a white male. I dated a black woman and a few multi racial (1/2 black) women in college (7-8 yrs ago). I went to college in a very diverse city. I got a lot of hate from people I’d never even met. If I was holding their hand or kissing them goodbye while out in public… as soon as she was gone people who had witnessed this (usually black women/men) often felt the need to accost me. I’ve been called the most vile things by people I didn’t even know for being in contact with a black or darker skinned woman. I wasn’t the one to end any of those relationships, but I have specifically avoided dating black women after being physically attacked during the last relationship. I wasn’t even dating her any more at that point. We had broken up. She came to visit me and I walked her to the train station around midnight. I hugged her goodbye and kissed her on the forehead. Three black men leaving the station saw this. I was accosted, thrown to the ground, and got the shit kicked out of me. Transit officer came by and shouted »that’s enough » and the guys left. He said something along the lines of ‘well, what did you expect?’ before he walked off leaving me there. I know it’s a pathetic, contemptible reason to not pursue dating someone… I just can’t put myself through that again.
Doesn’t matter to me, I’ve dated a few black women in the past. Personality, interests, character, career ambitions, and physical attractiveness are the only things that matter to me when dating. If you check off everything on the list and just happen to be black, then whatever.
ya know, i wanted to make a post like this a few months ago but thought i would get a lot of backlash. a lot of the matches i had, went straight to sex and some even mention my black-specific features sexually. i had this one guy i was talking to for a while ask if i could get « ghetto » as that turns him on. he tried to say, he likes feisty women in general but fucked up by calling it ghetto. afterwards, it seemed like i was a monolith, a stereotype, and he only wanted to talk to me for the « black experience. »
another guy kept asking where i grew up and why i didnt act like other black people. this guy was white and apparently born and raised around black people. he kept questioning my blackness and honestly i stopped talking to him. he made me feel like i wasnt black enough for his white ass, like what shit is that?!?!?!
ive right swiped on a lot of guys, even a guy who lost his foot. i feel like black women are less picky but at the the same time, no one likes us in return. i feel like black women are placed in the « bangable » but not « dateable » zone, and for awhile i started thinking the only guys i could date are black guys, cause at least they wouldnt treat me like an exotic sex toy. **obviously i shelved those feelings** and kept it going. to me all it takes is one person for me to change my mind or perspective. my favorite thing to say about online dating is, there are a lot of bad actors on old, but they do not represent everyone. even though it was hard, depressing, and futile, i adjusted my expectations, what i was looking for, and gave a lot of guys a chance. i was at a point where i was going to either quit old, or put old on the back burner and try meetup when i met my bf. my bf never tried to send me dick pics, he didnt get sexual and treats me as me and not « a black woman that im dating » if that makes sense.
it would be nice to have most men appreciate my beauty and like my personality and not just my skin color and how awesome it contrasts with their skin. like we are not an accessory, no one is an accessory, unless yall doing some crime shit and you helped……you know what im talking about lol.
As a black woman, I’m tired of hearing this. Yes, racism sucks and obviously affects the dating world. Some people may not want to date you because you’re black, hell, some people may not even like you because you’re black. But that’s life. No, you will not end up forever alone. No, not EVERYONE dislikes black women or thinks that they are ugly. Don’t obsess over the people that do, it’s a waste of your time.
You’re probably young. Most girls my age (early 20’s) deal with guys who are mostly interested in sex and not commitment. That part isn’t necessarily 100% due to your blackness.
Also, a question like this is going to lead to response bias. The people who aren’t attracted are not going to respond and the people who are are going to shout it from the rooftops.
I dated a black girl for 5 years as a white guy. Yea I like black girls, and I have always felt like I would date any ethnicity.
I’ll be honest though before her I would have rated black girls as typically one of the least attractive races, but she changed my mind on that. A lot of people just don’t know what they are missing out on. You’ll just have to work a little harder than other girls, but once you find a guy I am sure you’ll convert him, if he isn’t already.
I’ve never had anyone say those things to me. I’m a proud caramel flavored candy bar. Other races can be in love with the cocoa too! They do exist.
I’ve had more white men approach me than black men. However, there’s a lot of factors that determines whether someone will approach you such as your environment, size, height, weight, values, etc. sometimes it’s not even about race . It could just be even your demeanor. If you look intimidating, it’s hard for some people to come say hello. Maybe you’re just not a person’s type and honestly thats okay! It narrows down the hunt in getting the man of your dreams! There’s so many people in this world. You have to go through a lot of trials just to be able to get that one person that’s for you. Don’t lose hope. Black is just as beautiful as any other color. If someone can’t see that, he/she isn’t for you. Take it as a blessing in disguise.
Depends on the woman, really. While I haven’t met one in my personal life that I’ve been attracted to (it tends to be whites and Asians), I’ve known so few black people, especially women. I find removing an entire race from your potential pool of partners to be irrational.
I prefer black women, I think your skin tone is beautiful. Don’t try to read into what people are thinking you’ll make yourself miserable.
It really depends. I’ve dated black women and my ex-fiancee was black. But theres plenty of black women I didn’t like to, it falls more down interests. If you have similar interests to me and show that you are attracted to me, thats the quickest way for me to like you back; not your skin color.
I’m sorry you feel so discouraged.
I’m not specifically « into » black women, but I meet many who I consider very beautiful and intelligent.
Dating sucks. People suck. Hang in there.
I’m white and I like black girls! Might go on a date with one soon actually!
Okay, I am white, I recently proposed to my fiancee who happens to be black. I adore her and feel like the luckiest man on earth because she is an amazing woman.
I preferred to date non-white woman but I didn’t exclude white women. I’ve date many different races but I preferred black women.
on average from my experience the majority have the most positive and uplifting attitudes to succeed. Also how a black women support their man is on a whole different level and I understand every woman is different from the next but there is an underlying difference on average from my experience.
Physically & looks wise I think black women the sexiest women on earth. The reason I think this is because of your hair, you heard me right. I think the way black women can change up their hair regularly is the sexist and the most feminine thing a woman can do. On top of the work you put into your hair (depending on grade) is unreal and you don’t get the appreciation you deserve.
As far as skin tone I think you should walk around wearing your skin tone proudly (not saying you don’t) what I’m saying is. Your skin is beautiful whether you’re light a day or dark is night if you wear it with confidence men will notice your confidence and that turns heads more. yes, someone people have a preference to dark or light skin but it no different than having someone interested in you other body parts like they want a woman with big boobs. So be proud of how you look and rock your own style, trust me you’ll get more attention.
I get a lot of the fetishization (just want sex) and disrespect in regards to me being a black woman, but there have also been a ton of guys (all colors, sizes and legal ages) that were/are interested in genuinely getting to know me or dating me.
Kind of seems like you may have some personal insecurities going on. Don’t want to speculate that because maybe it isn’t really just you. But if you feel like people think you’re automatically “nappy,” or “too ghetto,” or “ratchet” I would like to know 1) where the came from, 2) why those would even seem like negatives to you and 3) why you would care if someone does think you’re those things without getting to know you or having any idea how you really are?
The right people will come. You just have to be comfortable and confident in your skin. Practice self care and take breaks from online dating (which can often make you feel like shit). Do some other shit, get out and meet people in really life—literally maybe go to a bar or some other place you enjoy doing things at and strike up a conversation with someone random just because. It’s great practice, you’d be social and doing things you enjoy and it wouldn’t be as dating/relationship-centric.
DO NOT settle and ALWAYS call guys out on their bullshit. They say some disrespectful shit to you? No need to explain, tell them firmly that they’ve missed out on getting to know a great person, wish them luck, report and block and MOVE ON. You’ll love yourself more in the long run because you realize your worth and wouldn’t want your time wasted with a piece of shit guy like that anyway.
Doesn’t matter if I may be unattractive/unlike able to some. I know my worth, I know I’m beautiful and have a great personality. The right people/person will come when they need to.
Best of luck, love ❤️
Edit: I am a brown/dark skinned woman in my mid to late twenties, with very short “nappy” hair (by choice, because that style makes me feel beautiful).
I love black women. I like women of all colors but I’ve only dated black women these past few years. It’s just a matter of finding the right person. I’m black and most black women I run into in online sites only wanted white guys. I would be thrilled to find a black woman that was interested in me.
I do. But I haven’t had the chance to meet many. And they generally don’t seem that interested in me. I actually had the same question to black women – what do they think of other races (white, asian, hispanic men)?
There was a black girl that I was good friends with as kids. Saw her later in life and kinda wished I had made a move; we got along really well but had always been just friends so.
I prefer black women but since i’m living in east europe the dating pool isn’t that big so i’m forced to date mostly white women.
This isnt what you’re looking for, but you are asking for public opinions…
For me, their shape, size and colour doesn’t really matter, sure it helps to meet people who fit my general tastes… But I can meet the most hottest, most attractive woman physically, and be quickly turned off by her if she possesses no humour, no self awareness and is quick to jump to conclusions. Reasons being is purely that I cannot get along with those types of people.
It’s all about what makes each person tick. But to cater this part of my comment to your post, I used to have the biggest crush on a black woman, and every so often I find myself fairly attracted to other black women. Not just sexually, but just the sight of their smiles makes me happy.
This is my 2 cents anyway.
Nothing much I can contribute here. But us Indian (South Asian) guys have it equally worse if not worser (Hey atleast you can get laid easily!) It sucks when the first impression people make about you is defined by the stereotypes related to your race!
I get rejected my black women all the time
Ssw a white dude with a black woman couple days ago. Had 2 kids and one that was pretty much a month or two old.
I find many black women attractive.
I literally don’t know anyone who would think that black chicks are somehow uglier then white chicks. Truth it, there are just attractive women and not attractive women and it doesn’t matter what race you are. One of the most amazing looking women I’ve seen are black. So ofc I like black women, as much as all the other women 🙂
I’ve dated black women before and I find them very attractive, but dating them gives me pause because they tend to be religious and tend to be very insecure, which comes out in the form of some strange behavior and attitudes. A black woman with her head on right is super hot though, and I’d have no issues at all settling down with one if I were ever single again.
I’d say yes, but if you want data, white man/black woman marriages are the least likely to end in divorce, much lower rates than white man/white woman or white man/asian woman.
https://www.divorcesource.com/blog/interracial-marriage-and-divorce/
White guy here. Absolutely love black women! Black girl magic is real! Know your worth and someone will appreciate you for who you are!
Definitely into black women. Matched with one online yesterday. But I got ghosted.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but it seems like you are actively pursuing or looking for non black guys? If so that answers your question. And you’d need to process why that is.
If not, I’m assuming your environment/location has a scarcity of black guys. In that case, you can’t take the behavior or guys personally. It’s not on you. It’s them. And your person will come along, the universe is actively filtering these guys out for you.
Mexican dude here.
I like black women.
I like black woman! late thirties white Male here, california.
My(40F) brother(37) only dates black women. (We’re mixed white and Japanese.) And he doesn’t just go for the black women who look mixed or « whiter » like some guys do, he likes dark skinned women. He’s never dated a white girl. He loves black women too much for that! He has 3 mixed kids, his ex-wife was black, and his current fiancee is black.
I’m part white (and part Native American) and think black women are great. The most beautiful women I’ve come across in my city have been black. When it comes time dating, though, I hook up with women of any race or ethnicity I find attractive.
For me skin color doesn’t really matter. As long you’re a decent person and check the right boxes I couldn’t care less.
my fiancee is black, Africa black, not Central America or Haiti black.
her hair is nappy, but oh man, she is my heart and soul.
this woman will do anything for me just in the same way I would do anything for her.
I do.
By the way, I was out with a white friend one time and we met a cute, spunky black woman around our age. He later admitted that he was really interested in her, but he didn’t pursue because he was too nervous that she might not like white guys. Honestly, I get why he would’ve thought that.
I tend to be attracted to palish women I think because I am, but let me tell you I have been all about some hot black ladies and I would date a black woman in an instant. I simply don’t know any.