Dating : How the hell do I attracted guys either who just like me and never want to date me or guys who like me but like to verbal abuse me?
The last two years this constantly keep happening either they just don’t say why they don’t want to date me but act like they like me. Or show they really like me but then say something that’s fuck about me like usually my appearance and I stick up for myself. Then they will get all angry when I stick up for myself like the hell I can’t stick up for myself when you offended me? then they lose their attraction to me and I ghost them or they ghost me. This kept happening on online dating so I quit online dating because I’m tired. But thinking of getting out there again how the hell do I avoid these two type of guys? no matter what guy I talk to he either the first group or the second group. How am I getting only these type of guys and not a guy who willing to see where this goes and build a connection to the point we spend years together and maybe marriage?
The first obvious point is that the beginning stages of dating always require a leap of faith. You can’t have perfect information to make your choices before the dates occur. You find their bad stuff through the dating process
Secondly, it’s not just that you’re attracting these guys. It’s that you’re choosing them above all other possible suitors. Maybe you have a hand in the pattern?
The problem is with the first group that you say. You have to be patient, and accept if they doesnt like you.