Dating : How to know if it’s gut or fear?
When I start to date someone I really like, I get very anxious. I start to overthink and I always believe that the attraction is not mutual, that Im not good enough, that he is out of my league.
I put the guy Im dating on a pedestal.
Deep down I’m affraid of being rejected.
When feeling all of this. I’m overwhelmed and can’t listen to my gut.
Sometimes i think my gut tells me something, but most of the time it’s just fears.
I often end up sabotaging new dating relationship.
Do you have any advice on how I can make the difference between fear and being affraid of rejection with real gut feelings.
Sure here are some steps:
1) Don’t idealize or romanticize him. You said you put the man on a pedestal, which is already saying that you’re idealizing the idea of him and giving him more credit than he’s worth.
He’s just a human like the rest of us. So remember that.
2) Instead, put yourself on a pedestal. Not in a narcissistic way, but meaning love yourself and have high expectations for yourself. Just know that you are awesome and any man would be lucky to date you.
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Just change your perspective and love yourself. Remember there are like 4 billion men in the world. Tons of fish in the sea. Don’t create an idea of him.