Dating : I (20M) think I am developing feelings for a colleague of my university (18F)
Hello,
Since I don’t want to present a novel, I’ll strictly get to the highlights
-we met at September, we were in different class but we catch the same train and bus some days. She lives like at the end of the street.
-She knew and helped me about a girl (crazy girl that looked like a barbie) that played me and kind of manipulated me
-She is super sweet and super nice, to the point I want to protect her from the world and don’t understand how some people in some situations treat her.
– She always said I am the craziest person she ever met, because of my views on the world and the future, but says that even with that she likes being with me and always want another « date » with me
-She has a boyfriend of 1 year, which I didn’t met but respect, but from what she said they might break up soon
-I’ve said some things in the past to prevent us being more than friends because I don’t want to hurt her, which I’ll do my best to not to do, but we are so different that might happen?
When we are together, we both feel genuinely happy, I can see that every time I make her laugh, every time she smiles, when it’s time to leave, I’ll always say something like « well, good summer, I guess we’ll not be seeing each other for a good time » and she always says that we’ll meet soon, I said that last week and she invited to go to the beach with her this week.
-We started of as colleagues, with small chat and such, but quickly evolved (to the point I really trust her to tell my crazy adventurous every week) and last time we went to some deep conversations about life, friendships, relations and such, this week I intend to make the conversation more intimate.
Should I Perdue her, despite the fact that I feel that Im not a good person enough to deserve such sweet person?
TDLR: read last paragraph and title
No. She has a boyfriend. If you dont want to be friends with her, then pursue her.
Your just lonely. Find someone else.
Classic pattern.
Personally I’d just not hang out with her at all. You are tormented by your impotent lust and she is teasing keeping you around as an orbiter, a « trusted friend », but not to be dated. Even if she broke up with her boyfriend today and got into something with you, that would make you a rebound, and that’s a crap relationship 99% of the time (especially when she backslides to the previous boyfriend and leaves you sad).