Dating : Interesting 2nd Date Experience… help!
Went on a bit of a confusing and honestly kinda cringy second date. Still not sure how to process it and I’m getting very different advice from each of my friends and family. So some background, went on a first date last week. It went pretty well, we are really similar so we had a lot of things to talk about. I definitely thought there was chemistry there. After we had dinner last week though I asked her if she wanted to get some coffee so we could continue chatting. She declined, and I figured that was that, but she sent me a text early the following morning saying she hopes she didn’t offend me with declining. She just has a very stressful job and would prefer not to be out so late but she would very much like to hang out again soon. So we planned to catch a movie and get dinner afterwards. All good.
The second date was last night. Everything was going well until I suppose I misread the situation and near the end of the movie I put my arm around her. She didn’t scoot away but she didn’t scoot closer either, just kinda sat there immobile. I wasn’t sure what to do so I just sat there with my arm around her for like 20 minutes. It was awkward, and soon as the credits roll she gets up and we start walking out. So I ask her where she wanted to go eat and she told me she already ate and she’s gonna head home if that’s alright. I was thinking I completely blew it on the way home and just kinda pissed that I’m that dense. And yet this morning she texts me good morning with smiley faces and apologizing that she wasn’t up for dinner like we planned, she had already eaten and was exhausted from working all day and wondering if we could hang out on the weekend. So I have no idea what’s going on or what I should do. Help!
*TL;DR*
*Put my arm around a girl on the second date, she didn’t seem into it, cancelled dinner plans. Texted me this morning wanting to hang out a third time.*
I think you’re reading too much into it.
It’s the second date, so physical contact of any kind, may not be appreciated, however if she had a real issue with it, then she wouldn’t have texted you today.
Drop it casually into conversation if you really need an answer. Something like – blah blah blah oh and btw sorry if putting my arm around you made you feel uncomfortable. I was feeling really relaxed in your company and didn’t think it was a problem, but looking back it may have been weird.
🙂
On a second movie date the man I was with put his hand on my leg. I didn’t do anything.
It was just there.
But that’s all I just didn’t do anything but I didn’t care. I liked it.