Dating : I am unbelievably shy around attractive girls
I’m a 21 year old male, for starters I’ve been incredibly shy in general ever since I remember myself. But since few years ago I’ve been able to hide my shyness by laughing about myself and joking whenever I meet new people.
However I’m still incredibly shy with attractive girls, it’s hard for me to keep a conversation, holding an eye contact, and flirting is basically something impossible for me, even when the girls are showing signs of being interested in me which I often don’t catch but even if I do catch it I’m not sure how I’m supposed to flirt. Last night at a club my friends were really trying to set me up with this one girl friend of theirs but as always I failed, we were all dancing in the club, I asked her »hey want to go and dance with me? » (you can’t possibly imagine how much courage it took me to say that, I would have never said the words if I was sober) and she answered »we’re already dancing ». I took that as her saying that she’s not interested and was almost relieved, but my friends said that one does not ask a girl to dance when we’re already all dancing in a group and I’ve now been cringing and kicking myself all day.
I’m fairly attractive, I’m 100% confident in my looks, but I’ve never even kissed a girl, I’ve been on 1 date from Tinder but I was so incredibly nervous, I couldn’t even talk (it was totally not the girls fault), I couldn’t bring myself to try dating on Tinder again, even if I matched with a girl I couldn’t bring myself to messaging her.
I’ve thought about talking to a professional but the career I’m pursuing is very sensitive about any mental disorder.