Dating : I feel as if I’m never going to find someone because I need attention in order to feel wanted )):
I’m 19 years old and I’ve been talking to this guy for a month and half. He’s a busy person so he doesn’t text me consistently during the day and I feel like I have to beg to talk sometimes. We’ve talked about this before but he just keeps saying he’s busy and then I feel dumb for even trying to talk about it.
I feel like I need consistent attention otherwise I don’t feel like the other person wants me. I just feel like if you really like someone, you would make effort to speak to them more.
Your last sentence is true.
There are men who feel the same as you. You can find someone who isn’t too busy for you.
That’s how life works. You make time for the important things.
As a guy, I prefer some days in between to build up stories. But I’ll always respond when talked to.
> I feel like I have to beg to talk sometimes.
he’s not right for u. both of ur needs have to be aligned together. find somebody who’s seeking the same thing. there’s nothing wrong with u
Probably have to move on. Yes, if people are interested they’ll make an effort. Especially a young guy (assuming he’s your age) trying to get some action. Sometimes people do get busy and may not reply quickly, but if they’re interested, they’ll be making plans to see you and such.
How about when you guys meet in person? I’m currently dating a guy who is in medical school and has hobbies and friends and is, needless to say, very busy. We don’t text all day, but we do exchange words every day, if only at night sometimes. And I usually plan our dates/ask him to hand out on a certain day because I’m the (self proclaimed) better planner.
But in person is where it really matters. He’s super attentive and we chat about absolutely everything that’s been going on.
This sounds like more of a you problem. You’re still young (I mean so am I, I’m 25) so it’s normal to feel a bit unstable and need reassurance. But I think you’ll need to work on it, because what I’ve learned is that guys who are real catches, who are interesting and driven and have a lot going for them, aren’t going to like clinginess and insecurity in a woman. What helps me is to make plans with them for the following week/weekend, so I can keep that in mind as reassurance that they’re interested, even if we don’t talk much. Best of luck to you!
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This is key, i started to realize, why should i bother with people who arnt bothered. Kinda sort out chasing women in a snap….