Dating : I feel guilty for not wanting to date.
It’s not that I’m giving up it’s just that I don’t feel like it. I was on tinder and got a decent amount of matches but I never felt like replying to any messages from guys so I just ended up deleting it. I get people in my dms asking me out but I just don’t feel like putting my energy out there for that. My mental capacity is just not there for it. I got out of my first relationship 3 months ago and while I am open to meeting someone new I just don’t feel like wasting my energy on dating. It’s draining and at the moment I really don’t care for it. I feel guilty though. I’m 25 and I feel like should proactively be doing it or else I’ll end up alone.
I’m 27F and perma-single, anytime I’ve tried dating (whether online or organically via mutual friends) I always end up going through a confusing emotional rollercoaster. Dudes are unpredictable, constantly contradicting themselves through their words/behaviours, and trying to figure out their motives is just not a fun time for me. Doesn’t help that I like to see the best in people, I overlook red flags and get my hopes up. Inevitably I end up disappointed and depressed. I find I’m much happier when I turn my attention towards my work, school and hobbies. I’ve always been a bit of a loner though, quite content in my own company, but yeah the social pressure to find a bf is certainly there. I’m the last of my single friends and my social circle is only narrowing as I get older..
If you ain’t ready, you ain’t ready. Dont let anyone or anything (societal norms) dictate or pressure you into meeting relationship capstones by a certain age
Ever since I got into psychology and realized how unstable everyone is on the inside, it put me off of dating anymore lol.
I’m the same – I have been single for a year and a half now (23F), broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years because I felt like I was forcing a connection. I guess personally, I don’t like the idea of online dating much – I have this sentiment that I will somehow meet the love of my life in a bookstore, or at work, or on the bus, or even in a bar…but meeting on Tinder or Instagram? Just doesn’t appeal to me. I know this is silly because dating in 2019 in almost entirely online now, but I don’t want to believe all romance is dead…
Also 25 here, I’ve been proactively doing it, will still end up alone, but I am miserable because I feel like I’m missing something. Advice to both of us, just stop. Do things that make you happy alone. Then if you meet someone along the way great, if not great, at least you’re happy
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you and you shouldn’t feel guilty. It could be your gut telling you that you need to focus on other things right now. Try to enjoy life by trying new activities, reading interesting books, traveling, bettering yourself. Life is not about dating. Just focus on the things that feel good to you.
Why do you feel guilty?
You make it sound like you’re in your fifties and not in your mid-twenties. And even if you were in the former, it would still be completely up to you whether or not you wanted to date, and no one would have any right to question it.
I’m in the same boat, in that I’m not short on options whatsoever, but I’m just generally apathetic about the whole process.
Part of it for me is that I’d rather date someone I’m friends with first. I have no interest in getting to know some random person off an app or some random dude who approaches me at the grocery store.
That said, I really wouldn’t stress about it if I were you. Focus on the things you actually do enjoy. It’s possible that you’re just burnt out from your prior experiences, and it’s perfectly healthy to recognize that and take as much time to yourself as you need.
i’m in the same boat. only recently dead grandfather and a bit older than you.
Why not just do ‘Netflix and chill’
You might want to see a therapist. Might be a sign of depression.
Or you might just be asexual.