Dating : I find very few people interesting or relatable
So I just never seem to meet anyone I could ask on a date!
Yes, I (M22) find many women attractive, but very few are otherwise so that I would be interested in spending lots of time with them :/ You see, the issue with most is that I just feel like we live in totally different worlds and speak a different language, because neither of us can relate… so conversations always tend to die.
In short I find very few women « dateable » (which sounds bad put that way)
It’s 7 years now since I’ve last dated someone… It seems I meet approximately one interesting woman a year, but they tend to either be already with someone else or disappear from my life due to moving away or something. Last year I had to move away, the one I was interested in the year before turned out to be a lesbian and in a relationship, the one before that moved away…
Because it’s literally like one person a year for me, the chances of being able to score a date, not to mention going any further, are few to say the least
There’s obviously also the « would she like me back? » factor… I’m probably not the most conventionally attractive guy alive, but I’ve reasoned I have some good qualities because my friends’ girlfriends seem to enjoy my company 🙂
What is wrong with my approach? Am I being too selective of whom I ask out? I usually want to get to know someone as an acquaintance first before I make the move… How should I change my ways?
I’ve honestly been feeling pretty lonely recently 🙁
pls help
> You see, the issue with most is that I just feel like we live in totally different worlds and speak a different language, because neither of us can relate… so conversations always tend to die.
Relatable.
i have autism and it’s been dreadful.
Ugh I feel this. It’s so hard to find a connection with guys for me. I find myself wanting them as friends rather than wanting to be a couple and I just dont see myself being with them.
Although, I do find that talking to people like you would with friends weeds out the people who cant take your humour or pace in which you talk.
I feel like saying you should be less picky is what most people would say, but I’m in the same pickle as you and it didnt work for me. (Not that I’m saying dont go outside your comfort zone, you should!!) I know the troubles of finding people boring or knowing you dont click with them.
My only advice is to keep looking. Maybe take a break and then start again.
Although it’s easy to say just be more open to different people we have our preferences on what we like for a reason. It’s what we’re attracted to and theres nothing wrong with that.
Do you have this problem with male friendship as well? Is it that you have a hard time connecting with anyone?