Dating : I have very poor body image and self esteem. I think I’m going to tell this girl that I can’t talk anymore
I have very low self esteem and for some reason this girl thinks I’m interesting. Problem is I’m too fat and she will reject me if she ever sees me naked. I don’t want to get hurt so how would I tell her that I’m going through some insecurities and can’t talk?
Has she seen you, or at least a pic of you?
-Pokes head in door
(looks around with one eyebrow raised)
« Gym montage? »
-slowly eases back through door
I’m sure she’s not blind, she already knows your fat, you’re not houdini bro. And if she wants to sit on your fat thighs and ride you while your man titties bounce up and down, how selfish of you to deny her that?
But seriously, just ask her out and see what happens man.
Just try it. Dont let this opportunity go to waste. If she does dislike you, well, then she doesn’t deserve you.
> Problem is I’m too fat and she will reject me if she ever sees me naked
Nah dude, the core problem is that your self esteem is in the shutter. Have you considered enlisting the help of a counselor to work through your feelings?
> I don’t want to get hurt
The reality is that life hurts sometimes. The trick is, getting back onto your feet and getting going again.
> how would I tell her that I’m going through some insecurities and can’t talk?
You don’t tell her that. You work through your inner demons and keep talking to her.
You’re only perpetuating your own conclusions by doing this. If you’ve met her, she obviously knows you’re bigger so why would it be a sudden shock when you’re naked?
If you feel uncomfortable OP, then go ahead and break up. However, just another point of view: sometimes ppl dig a person so much that they don’t mind if that person isn’t sporting 6 abs or even 1. If she finds you interesting, maybe give her a chance? Don’t let the fear of rejection keep you from a potential match.