Dating : I keep disappointing my dates
It seems that every time I go out with a woman, I’m told later that I let them down because I failed to pick up on little cues and that I was too much of a prude.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m flattered that so many women think I’m a sweet guy, and that they WANT me to pick up on cues in the first place, but I’m getting frustrated that women keep telling me that I’m not picking up on them.
I’m not really sure if I’m just dating the wrong kinds of women, or if I really am a prude. I get really caught up in conversations and I suffer from high functioning ASD, but you couldn’t really tell unless I were to tell you.
Should I just try dating different girls? How do I go about picking up on these cues for physical intimacy?
My experience is that good communication is always a great policy. Try to bring up the problem early on. Maybe tell a story during your next date about how people think you’re a prude because you have a hard time picking up on signals. Do it in a fun joking way and it will make you look more confident and communicate that being more heavy handed is welcome. Hope this helps! Good luck in the future!
Develop a quality dating strategy do you don’t have to worry about picking up on ques and can instead rely on this system. It streamlines the dating process (granted it still takes time and effort to improve on the system and really make it your own).
You have to change your mindset. If a girl is out on a date with you, she *wants* you to get physical, compliment her, make a move, etc. She doesn’t want a chat buddy.
Next time there’s an awkward silence, instead of blurting something out to keep the conversation going, lean in and go for a kiss.
If she is on a date with you, she is interested. Go for the kiss confidently. She will politely decline if she isn’t into it.
If you are unsure hold her hand while going for a walk. Pull it in for a kiss and see how she responds. If it’s positive, maybe one more time, still positive then pull her in for a real kiss. Keep escalating to your comfort level.