Dating : I keep hearing « No romantic connection » as a reason for rejection
31M (single, never married, no kids), Last week I had a great date with a girl I met online, conversation was good, and there was a good, long kiss and a hug at the end, I was very excited about a what I thought could be a start of a relationship, but she later sent me a text about how she « didnt feel a romantic connection ».
I thought about it, and Iv’e heard this reason from girls several times before, and I wonder what I’m doing wrong, or what does it exactly mean, a girl once said to me that there was no « flair » and the date felt like a conversation with a good friend but not something romantic
Is it my looks? I think in average, my face isn’t bad, I am skinny though. (1.70m 62kg)?
Is it because we mostly talk about superficial things, some current events, and not deeper more intimate things? (I think I lack something in this department, I dont know how to steer the conversation towards these subjects, nor am I sure its a good subject for a first date)?
Is it something else I’m completely missing?
How/what differentiates a good talk vs a good romantic first date that you want another afterwards, especially when there is a kiss, or physical contact involved.