Dating : I left her and I feel good
This post is about my experience in a 2 year relationship and how it turned out for me.
It wasn’t an easy task to open up to a person of the opposite gender in the first place. I count my friends on 2 or 3 fingers because I really don’t feel comfortable socializing. She was my first girlfriend. And I would still like to have her in my life but not as a girlfriend.
I’ll tell you why,
She had this urge to share everything with her girl best friends and one day in the middle of our conversation, her friends pointed out about my nature and the way I don’t socialize with people and rubbed it in my face to make me realize how I should be thankful to have her and that no-one would ever consider me and there you could see my girlfriend just standing there and kinda seconding that whole opinion.
It was at that moment I realized that she was always just curious about my insecurities and used them to get into my head and the face of concern she put on at that time is really holding me back from talking to anyone else.
Now, the moment someone tries to ask about things that bother me or tries to get personal, my first reaction is to just push them away.
I dated someone like this for three years, I’m really sorry that this was your first experience in a relationship. People can be really shitty. I just want you to know that there’s nothing wrong with you, what she did was terrible and you didn’t deserve it. I’m proud of you for knowing that you deserve better and leaving, even if it’s hard.
Give yourself some time to grieve the loss, be kind to yourself and do some of the things you like to do just for you. It’s okay to be upset even though it was for the best, you’re allowed to be upset. It might take some time to heal and move past this, that’s okay. Take all the time you need!
your supposed to be someone’s other half not their pet. unless your into pet play… but that’s beyond the point. if she loved you she wouldn’t have treated you like a head case and treated you like a lover. you’ve been hurt and I understand what it’s like to have someone act like your their personal plaything to their friends. now I’m married to someone who actually loves me and treats me as their other half and not a plaything and I’ve never been better so good for you and find your other half not your owner or master.
Man I can relate. I had a woman creep into my life that was a neighbor . She came off so nice and sweet at first. And super touchie ,feely right off the bat . Then sex like the 2nd or 3rd time we met . It was awesome at first , I thought this woman is my soul mate . Well we started hanging out in the evenings , talking alot more and I started to notice how obsessed she was talking about her past and how she is a victim. This is were it started . Trauma bonding. She started to get upset with me for giving advice or not the advice she wanted to hear. Because let’s face it at this point I didn’t know she secretly hates men and has a violent side when provoked. So arguments would happen , then abuse and we would break up and get back together only for me to come back to a woman with deep rooted issues with her past and men . She came off so sweet and Christian to everyone else , but would talk mad shit and judge them . I could not talk to a woman nor look at one and didn’t matter , no female period . She tried to isolate me from friends and family and destroy me along the way mentally . Basically a narcissistic Identity Thief. Glad you got out of your relationship quick. Because this could have gone on for years. Hopefully next time you know the red flags.And that you meet a good person that’s right for you.
Good job man
Good. They’re dumb as hell. They just want to keep you on a leash. Move on and look for positive people who actually care to care if you know what I mean.
Jesus Christ dude. Fuck her if she doesn’t respect who you are.
Personally, I think this is you having to link in the mirror – that you don’t want to be shy.. And any reminder of this will keep coming up everywhere til it’s dealt with, which could mean it’s not necessary a her fault, just something you want to deal with that’s bugging you, and it holds you back. I think if it wasn’t there it wouldn’t be there to talk about.
So maybe it’s not her fault..not saying there is any fault here, just some work here so everyone can be fully self expressed here.
Keep her, I’d say she has your best interests and maybe frustrated in having you overcome here.
More men need to dump women, I’m glad you took a stand. This will make you much stronger in future relationships chief
You seem smarter than me, and I do ok. You should bounce back well.
First, I’d like to say ‘thank you’ for sharing such a hurtful experience with us. You deserve better that a shitty relationship you got into. Do not let these memories bother you. The best possible option is letting go of everything that takes you back to the moments spent with that girl. You are much more than that, believe me! There might be a silver lining to all this. Now, at least, you understand youself better, don’t you?
Do not even let your thoughts wander back to those times! Your ex was a poor thing, she was suffering from her own inferiority complex, and it was not the only problem she happened to have. Do not hold a grunde agains her either, because it’ll probably make you weaker.
Be a person you want to be, and show others that you don’t underestimate yourself. You are fully aware of how other people must treat you. Let them know. And do not look back, okay? Everything is gonna be cool!
You’re perfect in your own individual way!
Good on you, congrats. You should use this time to focus on yourself though and develop those insecurities. It will make your future relationships, of any type, a little easier. Everyone hits different developmental milestones at different points in their life, but if you know your opportunities, mine as well make an effort to work on them.
At a boy
That takes courage man. I’ve been with a few girls that didn’t really respect me but I stuck around believing they were the best I could get. Respect man.
Good for you and I recently got out of a 2 year relationship. What I’ve learned is know your self worth and hold your partner accountable for their actions.
Mine wants me back
that’s fucked up, when you feel like you are not in your confort zone because of someone else and they make you feel like it was worthless. It kinda turns you down a little bit, but you’ve got to move on, you got other things to do man
I have advice for for all basically. I returned to the dating scene in July of last year. I am 53 years old in the matter of next month.
I have dated numerous hundreds of women and if contacted many more in this time. I have been with several sexually few have flown to where I’m at to see me. I have traveled to see them for certain activities. And some have become closer which are classified as friends with benefits.
Although many things had come out from these females passed and it was toxic but not with me. Except for one which many things came about in this situation. It was two weeks ago that I cut off all communication and everything.
This woman runs an entire hospital is a nurse runs cancer and diabetic unit but due to many matters I’ve had to cut her loose and that is beneficial there are other women that are falling in place. I have a cold hard Steel Heart. I even told this one that it would be hard for you to have a set of keys to open up.
Now when women asked me about why I have such a large key ring on my clip it’s like a janitor having thousands of keys for the school right I have these for these keys go to many things into countries and aspects I have.
So women asked me what are all these keys for why you carry so many because of because many women have not been able to open up my heart or their lost keys that can open my heart.
Even a female custom agent at the United States border even asked me once just because the keys were in my ignition. This is a question only women ask.
But I actually come back on that some like it some don’t know how to respond to that. But the lesson learned there she’s just got to discard the key or keep the keys on the key ring as a notch on your belt or lesson learned.
That’s not the case with my key ring but there’s so many keys on there so many different things around the world it makes a great serious emphasis of what my feelings are.
So anyone this at this point of the message you need to literally just be more open. And at least be more faithful with someone that you want to be with. And today’s society of swiping left and right it’s so easy. I’m on so many dating apps that being 53 years old almost.
Dating women as young as 24 years old and up to my age is so easy. I communicate with females is from 18 and above he’s just very easy now. But with my experience it makes this technical Society so much easier. But it’s not good for our society either.
Wow, she sounds like my mom
r/nagatoro is leaking
It’s good you left her. But just a thought. Do you think she wss trying to push you to get out of your comfort zone?
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