Dating : I think, maybe, we’re all too focused on the rules of “the dating game”
Should I wait to text back. Should I make plans first. Am I coming on too strong. Should I tell them I like them.
Idk. I know it’s difficult to put yourself out there, and even more difficult to put yourself out there AND be totally yourself. But maybe we’re all making things worse by playing by these dumb, socially accepted rules.
Wouldn’t it make more sense to simply be ourselves, love freely, and communicate when you’re feeling interested in someone?
Of course it would be better. But this is not a Disney movie. Everyone has doubts, worries, expections and a different past which does define a Person After All. These rules were not written down by Some guy. They were kind of formed by society because they worked in several Relationships and people then shared their experiences
Common sense is neither common nor a sense I’m afraid, and unfortunately a lot of people carry baggage from past relationships and dates that informs upon their decisions going forward, in the efforts of trying to improve ourselves we actually lend help to and perpetuate the cycle so many of us dread. It’s actually rather ironic that this is the case and unless we all decide to change at once, little of how things are in modern dating are going to change on the whole.
The « rules » weren’t designed by someone. They are just general observations of how the majority of average people interact in today’s modern age of dating. Really, this majority is just « being themselves » and this how they interact. I say we are the minority. Confused and frustrated that we don’t « get it » or fit in. We are like the rounding error in the Matrix, but instead of getting superpowers and flying…we’re going to die confused and alone 😛
Well…there’s also people going on multiple dates and just hooking up.
Life is full of games. You have to pick which ones you are ok with playing. Even with the fucked up rules.
I agree, but society has commonly-held judgments and assumptions and no one is going to give the benefit of the doubt when they can easily find another option.
It’s probably better to just be who you are and find someone who likes you that way, than bend yourself into a pretzel to please someone.
You talk with sense. Humanity and society doesn’t take kindly to logic nowadays
has someone who « abandoned » the rules and used my own moral guidance and openness in a relationship, that failed because I decided to throw away the rules. multiple times.
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the rules exist for a reason. they are not the law. but I’ve found that there are certain micro dynamics,although shallow, that can prevent the « seed » from growing that creates a wonderful relationship between two people.
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you can’t beat em, join em.
You are not required by law to follow any rule. You do you.
I thought there were only 2 rules. 1. Be attractive 2. Don’t be unattractive
Nope, that would be the lazy way, and nothing good in life comes from something « easy » .
Why easy? cause you dont have to do shit if thats enough, you dont have to even shower, cause that wont interfere in who you truly are.