Dating : idk how to talk to boys
i’m a 16 y/o boy and im attracted to boys but i CANT TALK TO THEM. i get so shaky dammit. i cant do anything in front of them. it takes all my energy just to walk straight. then if they say “hi” i can maybe whimper out a quiet pathetic “hello.” it’s so annoying because i’m not this shy weak person underneath!! and i don’t know how to show that in a matter of minutes/hours or even seconds depending on who they are. but i can’t eat, i forget how to stand how to sit, how to move naturally and it feels like my every movement is incredibly improvised and fake and shaky and awkward. i usually like boys a few years older and this makes it so much worse oh my god.
sometimes i’ll be a little flirty with some boys in shops if they give me the eyes but it’s when i have a proper crush on someone.. i just stop functioning as a human being hahahahahhelpmeee
I tell this to young people all the time. POSTURE! Is the first thing to work on. How you stand, walk, and talk is so important not just for your own confidence but for how others will receive you. I was the same way with social anxiety but worked past it. Most importantly is to remain stoic on the outside while you are freaking out on the inside.
Pay attention and keep correcting it when you hunch over. Keep reminding your self while walking and sitting “back straight, chest out, head up!” You will start to feel better and will be willing to step out a little more.
I know many people hate jordan peterson but listen to him talk about lobster posture pre and post dominance fight. Its truly interesting! This a long video but skip to 17:30 and watch this last clip and keep an open mind.
https://youtu.be/OpH-CTwOdM0
Next thing is literally every person you walk by make eye contact with them and if they make it back just say hi and smile and keep walking! This will help you practice introducing yourself better and stronger. Ill say hi or head nod strangers that make eye contact with me all the time. And when i say hi, i fell a little rush because i stepped out. The more you do it the better you get and easier it becomes.
This is the weirdest thing I have ever read today, but to each their own. I’m a male who likes females and talking to other guys isn’t hard. It’s literally the most easiest thing compared to talking to women. Just say anything and relax, get out of your head