Dating : If your boyfriend or girlfriend wanted their mother to go with you to all dates/activities?
If your boyfriend/girlfriends mother moved to town and was part disabled, meaning needed help 3 hours a day. Would you be ok with boyfriend/girlfriend insisting that their mom goes with you on dates and activities. For example, I asked to go to the water park. They said yes, but then they asked if mom could go. I said no. They made other plans. Other plans were because other relative invited the mom and would treat them all to a meal. I asked to see fireworks. It was a No, unless mom can go. I said a Heeeell no. They see MOM like 70 hours a week..or more. I work. I just want some time to ourselves.
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So would you be ok as an adult having mom tag along on all dates and activities? I find it creepy as fuck.
No. This person is not in a place to date right now
Maybe she should make use of a caregiver during these instances or to give her a lil breathing room in general?
nope
Leave this person in the dust. It’s not going to get an easier, so break off ties with them.
This is a good indication of what life would be like with this person. If you don’t like that then find someone else that is right for you.
Nope. A date is the time to get to know one another. It’s hard to do that if you’re bringing a tag-along.
Well, one should love their parents but ffs not SO MUCH..
Don’t pick up any of their caregiving burdens. It would not end. But I feel pity for this person. It’s likely that they would like to go somewhere without their mother. But is not willing or able to say no to her.
Some people can demand a great deal of care and be extremely needy. And when they have geniune medical problems it can be extremely difficult to after a while to separate out geniune needs from wants.
Also they have to put up with incessant questions when they return from anywhere. And so just gave up. They may also not be able to afford home caregivers or she is too demanding of them. For example they’re caregivers not house cleaners.
So stick to your guns and if they want to do something without the mom do it. They could use a break but don’t compromise your limits.
That’s Bates Motel shit right there.
As a man, when I was unemployed and living with my parents dating was out of the question.
Taking either one of my parents on a date with a girl? Good Lord that is fucked up on a quantum level.
yeah….no, that’s weird and not a situation you want to get wrapped into
Ah, **hell**, no….