Dating : Im always the rebound guy backup plan side dude
Aight I know ive been postin in this subreddit alot. Im on that focus on myself juice so this will probably be my last post in here for awhile again sorry i just went through some bullshit again.
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But I wanted to vent this out because ive noticed this with my past relationships and recent girls ive been talking to, online irl it do not matter
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I’ve noticed ive always been the rebound guy. The guy you date or hit up when your ex isnt treating you right,
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date me for what a month then leave my ass in the dirt. Mans not treating you right? Send nudes in dms lead me on then just forget about me after yall patch shit up.
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earlier this year i had a whole ass date with someone planned with someone we flirtin gettin nudes talking etc she couldnt make it ok cool shit happens we rescheduled ok cool find out she got a whole boyfriend
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dude.
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Im tired
Im dead fucking tired of being the side dude like real fucking shit. I want someone that geniunly likes me someone that can commit to (and can peg me silly). It straight pisses me off that women do this? You not happy in your relationship? Patch it up, break it off and leave me the fuck out of it
Sounds horrible, I can understand that you feel tired.
Sometimes people and in your case, women are seriously selfish and DGAF about others feelings.
I’m sorry from what you’re dealing. Just take a break from dating?
“Shift” your skills at empathy (apparently you’re good at this- it’s the #1 reason you’re ‘that guy’*), and drop the nice-guy stuff for being ‘edgier.’
“Faint heart ne’er won Fair Maiden.”
Put ‘em to the test and start ‘pushing’ your agenda toward becoming dominant.
You’ll get slapped, sure. Otherwise, what? Another weekend alone?
You’ll get laid a LOT, and find that your self-respect begets respect from the women you’re pursuing.
Good Luck!
I don’t have any advice for you. But I just came out of a similar situation. Girl I’m super into has been off and on with her bf. We go out and have a good time. Making out and all over each other all night. She gives me signals that she likes me and texts me the next day saying she looks forward to seeing me again and how much fun she had. Then when we are supposed to hang out literally 4 days later she just blows me off and treats me like I’m trash she is throwing to the curb.
First of all, I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I know how you feel. I’m a woman and I’ve been in that situation many times too. But after some experience I think I am now better at telling people’s intention and just filtering in general. I still fall for the crap BUT it’s gotten way better. What I realized was that I was so attention deprived if anyone would give me the slightest attention I would just start liking them. Are you that way too? Now my mind is more like “ok so does this person deserve my attention and affection? what have they done to prove that?” And I really take time to figure that out. I don’t jump into sexting or sex. I take time to figure the person out.
If you just lean back and chill you will be able to see if they really genuinely like you or just want temporary attention and ego boost. Whether it’s a man or woman, if they like you, you would feel it with no question. Pay attention to how they make time for you and what they do for you.
Also maybe make a list of things you find absolutely a no no in a woman and things that you think they must have. I wrote mine down in my journal and everytime i start talking/dating someone I come back to the list and check if the person meets all these standards and if I missed any red flags.
Do you know how many guys would kill to be in your position? My man, you have to start looking on the bright side. You get a new chick every month, you bang the crap out of her, no strings attached, then she disappears and you never hear from her? Pal, you’ll never have it so sweet!
I hope these women sending all these nudes out get them cut loose on the internet. Have some sort of self respect, sheesh. Some day these women will have sons who are going to come across pictures of their mothers acting like total skanks. Dudes, stop sending them too, dicks aren’t pretty and statistically half are smaller than average so stop showing off your baby dick.