Dating : I’m beautiful, smart, finically stable but can’t find the right man! Why??
As people around me see me, I’m extremely sexy, abd beautiful. 35 but everyone thinks I’m 25 to 27.
I take care of my appearance and I look generally good.
I work, I have a good career and I have a daughter who is nice and I take good care if her. I’m open minded, like to laugh but if anyone gets so close they would definitely see the melancholy U always try yo hide.
My life was not easy, I’m in therapy but I lost way confidence in my self.
I forgot the strategies about how I can keep a man!
If I like someone, I get confirmation and i take distance not to show this sad side, or to avoid over-sharing the overwhelming details.
I hate dating apps now, it is full of sh****
But i need to have bf as it is almost 2 years alone now.
Any idea where to start?
When you can’t get a ‘right’ man but can’t get one, there is a good chance that ‘right’ man doesn’t want you or your situation. Without any details I’d just be guessing at stereotypes which makes this post kinda pointless. Maybe talk about to your therapist about emotional availability.
35 year old single mums in therapy aren’t that attractive to the majority of men. Plus at your age there is a much smaller dating pool to swim in (probably most of the ‘good’ men are already taken) which only makes your situation harder.
Stick with dating apps and be up front about your child but don’t write a profile that just lists things that you want in a man. Write about what you can offer him.
Your ego nvm just read the post sorry bro. Probably just stop overthinking it and maybe see yourself as a whole instead of an outside part of yourself and a deeper sadder part. Try to do stuff that keeps you in the present instead of your past.
By statistics, your chances lessen because not all men would want to date someone with a child regardless of how good you take care of your daughter. They don’t want shared attention so this is something you will have to disclose and be okay if they don’t pursue you.
Now the age, most people in their 30’s are already on a steady relationships. The ones left are the late bloomers, had other priorities and the younger ones.
There will still be someone out there for you. Don’t lose hope.
Like grover said, at 35 with a kid, you may need to adjust your expectations from when you were single in your 20s, if they have remained largely unchanged (or maybe even gone up with your career success)
It all depends what you define as the right man. If you have very high standards that could take a while as by a mans 30s you’ll be competing with women actually in their 20s without kids. Your career is something for you, most men won’t really care as long as you do something and aren’t a total leech. Ultimately keep your standards but just know that it won’t be as easy as it once was. You’ll find that good man eventually
How much do you weigh? What do you do for a living? You might just not be as smart or beautiful as you think you are
You probably live in and echo chamber of fake people who never give you necessary criticism and instead just tell you that you don’t need to improve. That’s the case for most girls but it might not apply to you given the fact I don’t even know you. Maybe if I saw you I would think your hot, who knows.
You might have a minor bad habit in your social skills that you might not be aware of (won’t stop talking about yourself, pretending to agree with everything, passive behavior, etc)
Once again, I don’t know you so none of that might apply to you. You might be an awesome person. Just try watching videos on what not to be like.
Because you have standards. Keep them.
Aside from you being a single mother which is big, what other hobbies or interests do you have. Do you do anything for leisure? Are you passionate about anything else? Lots of men seek these things as much as (even sometimes more than) financial success and beauty.
you sound like you’re in middle school.
38 and gorgeous… I’ll marry you. Yolo.
Your answers are exactly like society’s reaction to any real woman’s life. Judgmental, projection of your own self hate, Some are just focusing on making me looking like a fool or a liar. I work in modeling, internationally, amongst other things, just for those bullies manipulative who suspect that I’m fat or I’m the only one who thinks I’m sexy or hot because they hate themselves or they lie to ppl to feel better, or they look to others down to feel good about their miserable lives.
I don’t have a man, but I’m not miserable. I’m sometimes sad because I had a great life behind me, got great experiences. It is called, wise and age. Ego is something good also, as one of you said, to keep standers. Women are not in life to entertain men. Having a kid shouldn’t be a step down, and all ppl who think like that are very shallow and probably they were not loved enough in their lives.
I get offers from men to be with me all the time. Never went to a bar and went out without a complement at the very least.
But maybe this is a problem too, i don’t look for mans money, or how he looks if it is acceptable, but his humor and his heart. And reading what most of you wrote, it seems hard to find intelligent ppl anyway in life.