Dating : I’m goodlooking But I struggle to get women.
I’m considered A goodlooking guy but I struggle to get dates.
A lot of people men and older women tell me I’m handsome and they will tell me things like a guy as goodlooking as me shouldn’t be single
I’m 24 I’m 5,7 and I get told this it’s not like I’m asking people this. Yet I struggle to get eye contact from younger woman and if they do talk to me they always say they have boyfriend
Does this mean I’m in some purgatory
People more than often say I look like drake just a lil cuter than him so what gives?
Happens to me as well, I’ve been told I’m good looking but struggle to get any eye contact. Young or old, turning 40 this month, stay in shape better than I was in high school but to no avail.
But doesn’t seem to be an issue when I’m in a relationship.
Trust me man, I say this as someone who never gets told that stuff by anyone, just appreciate the compliments and don’t deep it lol.
You have to remember there are guys out there who aren’t good looking and get dates. So it’s something else that’s attracting women. Chances are you could improve in other aspects to make yourself a more complete person. But I wouldn’t worry about it either way. Perhaps look at your good looks as a safety net so you can put yourself out there more, because it sounds like you’re waiting for girls to come flirt with you or something but often you have to be the one to initiate. If you move with confidence and a genuine love for who you are then it’ll radiate regardless of how you look on the surface.
Go to in-person events as much as possible and just mingle with people. Speed dating, concerts, etc. There’s bound to be single people there you can connect with.
People are too busy with themselves to really be interested in other people these days, especially during a pandemic too
Are you friendly and do you flirt? Maybe these girls are afraid to let you know they are interested.
You are probably not as good looking as you think then.
How much attention do you get on dating apps (and what’s the population density there)?
Game. You don’t have it, but it’s not hard to develop.
Are you confident? Do you have style? Interests? A personality?
People overlook how you present yourself and how you come off so much here. I can tell a difference two days apart simply if I wear a different outfit and style my hair. Like my neighbor didn’t speak to me until I got ready for some event and she saw me walk to my car. Usually I’m just going to the gym and don’t get any attention.
Also my bio/openers are always witty and unique. A lot of men try to cast the widest net possible by appealing to as many women as possible, but that just backfires and makes you seem basic and boring.
Welcome to the club brotha! I’m a good looking guy 5’8”
Welcome to the age of instagram, tiktok and shits who are providing much and much content displaying the « perfect dudes and girls »
Welcome to the age where a lot of men make the effort of doing sport and self care, so you will definitely not be the only guy who will be good looking and in a fit shape.
Good looking is the first step if attraction because it takes not even 20 seconds to know if someone is physically attracting or not, but it doesn’t make it all. And the more nice looking girls/boys there are, the most common it becomes, so the less noticed you will be in middle of others.
« A lot of people men and older women tell me I’m handsome and they will tell me things like a guy as goodlooking as me shouldn’t be single »
What men and older women think about your looks does not mean that’s what younger women think
« I’m 5,7 »
Your height may not be attractive to most women
The “lol I rarely validate females” makes me think your looks might not be what’s holding you back lmao dude
Hey, I’m good looking and struggle to get men. A lot of the time people assume good looking people are taken/not interested. Otherwise we’re intimidating. That’s how it’s been my entire life.
Sorry dude but you’re short. Doesn’t mean you can’t get women. It just means you have to work a bit harder.
5’7 there you go, women these days think 6’2 is short
Ah 5’7 that’s why. You should have said that in the first sentence.
When I was in my late teens I would CONSTANTLY have women compliment my looks. Not women interested in me, but like older taken women. I wasn’t getting dates. Then I actually crossed the threshold to being hot to people who ARE looking to date me and it’s a different world. I then developed confidence from the reciprocal feedback loop of being more attractive and receiving positive attention which makes you more confident, which makes you more attractive, etc. Once this confident personality AND the looks improved your dates are basically limited by hours in the day. Of course experience further amplifies positive reception. Imagine playing 400 games of chess and playing vs some guy on his 5th game. Good luck.
It’s because you’re 5’7”
Guys below 6ft are going to struggle in dating, until at least their late 20s
*sneaks behind a corner*- Psss! kid! you need some game?
Haha but jokes aside, looks isn’t everything, and ironically, for good looking guys, it can make it more difficult. Why? Two reasons:
– Most women don’t want to be seen as superficial, so they’ll put an extra ammount of difficulty when a handsome man approaches them.
– The stereotype of good-looking people being dumb also applies to men. So many women will expect you to be particulary wit, clever and confident.
Besides, the infamous « I have a boyfriend » statement is, more often than not, a shameless lie. Women use it to try men’s persistency and frustration-dealing. Next time try with some wit response, like « don’t worry, I’m not jealous », or « does he know he has a girlfriend? » and play along with her response.
Or maybe you should date older women. They can teach you… stuff.
Good luck and keep me updated, bro.
Your issue could be multiple things. Sometimes people avoid eye contact because they don’t want to stare because you’re attractive. They don’t want to seem desperate/ too into you. Also if they have a boyfriend maybe it seems inappropriate to stare at someone else they find attractive. Or because of your search for eye contact, you may be looking at them too intensely which geeks then out
Girls/women want to be with men that are fun! It’s not just looks.
Looks matter to men much more than women. What about your personality? Also, women aren’t always receptive to being cold approached in person. I use the boyfriend excuse when I don’t want to be bothered at times or I’m tired and running errands so avoid eye contact.
Confidence is the key to everything bro.Tell yourself in morning you the best