Dating : Is clubbing an immature event/activity?
Hey all,
My girlfriend and I argued over the past few days when I went clubbing one night (without her while she was invited) with a bunch of friends. She has an opinion thinking that clubbing is only for immature single college students who just wants to get laid (shes definitely not wrong). I however told her that I go because I love music (im a musician myself) and love to jump around and dance with friends and probably meet a person with the same interest as well. Even when I was single, I never really had the intention of going hoping to get laid or anything like that. I just love to have fun, maybe get drunk but responsibly get home by sobering up and all that. She also thinks if I come home at 4am, she would consider it irresponsible. I personally consider it irresponsible if I have something to do the next day or even drive drunk which I never do.
We dated a year and I at least thought I told her that I love to go out and have fun with friends. She all of the sudden had a huge problem with that it caught me completely off guard that I felt like I dont know her anymore (and the other way round). She started to have a problem when I went to a bachelor party in Quebec city and a stranger (girl) who was dancing on stage tripped and fell off of it and I caught her in my arms so that she wouldnt get hurt. I told her that because i thought it was funny and thought I joke that « wow, in this club there are raining bitches ». She kind of got upset and made me tell her to « try not have that happen again ».
First of all…. WHO THE FUCK GOES INTO THE CLUB HOPING THERE WOULD BE RAINING BITCHES?! Thirsty guys wouldnt even think that. Second, that can happen in the street where a person can trip and at least if I saw that happening, I definitely dont want anyone break a bone right in front of me when I could of helped.
Just want to know opinions. I would even like to know if im wrong. Maybe im too stubborn but it just doesnt feel right that she is trying to change me to someone she wants me to be but it was never harmful in the first place. We dated for a year and i am 29 years old and she is 25.
Sorry for the long post. Been bothering me for a while now.
alchohol + loud music + wild women = higher than normal chance of cheating…..
Your girlfriend clearly doesn’t trust you. Clubbing isnt just about getting laid (even though it does happen). A lot of people go out just for the fun and the fact that you enjoy it. I’m 24 and know plenty of people my age and older that enjoy a good night out.
Also I know from other guys I’ve dated is that you need some time away from your SO to spend time with your own friends.
She needs to work on her trust issues
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Maybe projection?
I actually feel bad for her… She is super insecure with trust issues. But also it might be that she just doesn’t go well with more open and outgoing guys like you are. Maybe in her eyes it’s crossing boundaries? Try to discuss around this, rather than argue who’s right or wrong 🙂
I love going. I’m 45. There’s nothing immature about dancing, music and having fun with friends.
Going out for drinks and dancing with friends is a normal social activity at any age. It’s true that people who are older tend to lose interest or have other obligations, but there’s nothing wrong with going out and enjoying yourself. I think your girlfriend had some trust issues, or maybe just a difference in what they consider fun.
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