Dating : Is he (30m) interested in me (27f) or am I wasting my time?
Okay, so I’ve known him for over a year, we met at the gym and get along really well. We have a lot in common and talk about all kinds of things and the conversation feels natural most the time. Sometimes there’s that awkward lull in the convo and on my side it’s because I get nervous around him sometimes and my mind goes blank and I can’t think of anything to say (you know that awkward crush brain that fails to form any thought apart from « damn he’s cute, I don’t know what to say, the hell do I do with my arms, is my face making weird looks? » kinda situation). Recently I was getting the impression he might like me back. He texted me early in the morning a few days in a row about random things, would send me selfies and we’d excitedly talk about the new marvel movies and switch games. We talk games a lot (something we have in common) and he lent me his zelda amiibo to use in game to help me out. I didn’t ask for them, he just bought them to the gym and handed them too me and I was so grateful but basically just gushed and said « thanks, you’re awesome » a few times. He said I could keep them until I finish the game (which might be a while lol). Buy since then he has stopped replying to my texts, just simple texts like suggesting a show he might like or a game meme or whatever. I understand it sounds immature for people our age but we are functioning adults outside of our gaming interests.
He just feels hot and cold, like he used to be excited to talk, but now he ignores my texts, but he seems excited when I see him in person. We still talk the same in person and it’s like nothing has changed, but he hasn’t text me back after the last 3 times I’ve text him (3 times in the past 3 weeks, I’m not pushy or anything, just trying to start a conversation). Should I back off? Approach him less at the gym and just let him dictate our interactions? Am I making it awkward, am I missing obvious hints he’s not interested, am I reading to much into his friendliness? I suppose I’ve been single for so long that I’m probably looking a bit desperate and I know that’s a pretty unattractive trait.
I dont know, just hoping for some outside perspective. Please help.