Dating : Is it a bad idea to date/be in a relationship with someone ~40 years older in your early 20’s?
I’m wondering from other’s perspectives how they would view such a relationship and whether it is wise to be in one. I’m talking about early 20’s as in aged 21-24. And this assumes that a relationship happened and wasn’t really one that was pursued based on age alone.
You’re talking about someone who is just starting or hasn’t even started their career yet, dating someone who is on the verge of retirement. That alone is such a massive difference in lifestyles. I would not recommend it.
uh…absolutely not. why the hell would anyone want this if not for some financially-driven motive.
It’s absolutely disgusting on both ends.
The 20yo especially is incredibly stupid to engage in a relationship like that.
As long as you both consent, do what you want, but I doubt it will work out. You two would be living two entirely different lives. This isn’t like a 10 year age gap where it’s significant but doable. This is a chasm that will be hard to get over, but if it works out, I guess. Just don’t be a piece of shit and that’s basically it.
In my experience, dating someone much older (10+ years) when you’re that young is an express ticket to manipulation and abuse – of you. I started dating a 30yo when I was 19, and I will be paying for that mistake for the rest of my life, in many ways. YMMV, but probably not by much. Men/women that old or older don’t date people that young, they prey on them.