Dating : Is it any better in other countries or is it like this worldwide?
I have noticed that there is no point in even trying anymore when you are just an ugly ethnic. It seems that the whole dating world here in the US only caters to white and black men. All the men, women seem to go coo coo for are always white or black. At least ugly white and black guys can somehow compare to the guys on TV since they are uglier than them but they are the same race as them. When you are an ugly ethnic, it’s even worse. I am not only ugly, but men of my race are not even shown on TV. I have seen guys complain about height but at least they are white so they should have it easier. I am not only below average in height but an ugly ethnic also. Sometimes I motivate myself to do some exercise but a lot of days I just give up since what’s the point of getting a great body when I am just an ugly ethnic. I even hate leaving the house now because I just hate how nice women are to white and black men but hate ugly ethnics like me. Even on this site, I have noticed that as soon women find out that I am not white they just ghost me.
You’re not ugly, stop telling yourself that. Not all white women like black guys. And there are other not necessarily all white women out there. From what I hear white women are into more than just black guys. Just out of curiosity, what is your ethnicity?
Honestly, part of it comes to demographics. Given that white and black people represent a large demographic and share a lot culturally, it’s bound to happen. Literally every culture / race people tend to prefer their own, less about skin colour but other shared norms/ customs etc. However there are plenty of people willing to not base race on selecting a partner. That all being said, as another poster mentioned, you may need to work on yourself a bit and get some confidence. There are a variety of factors when finding a partner, and race is pretty low on the list compared to shared interests, personality, etc. Also, when it comes to dating apps, you have to remember, every girl is literally being bombarded by messages. It could be your approach, it could be that she’s received the same message you sent by 5 others that day. There a myriad of reasons.
Either way, maybe you need some time for self exploration and to work on yourself. I did that a couple years ago and it did wonders. Boosts your confidence which is one of the most attractive things to a woman
Please seek a mental health professional, this post is non-sequential, eratic, and self-loathing.
you sure seem to hate yourself alot.
have you tried first loving yourself, so others might love you as well?
thats a real thing btw.
First of all, you’re right that race matters, but you’re going about that problem the wrong way. Just because your race isn’t the most desirable doesn’t mean you should just give up. I see a lot of guys at the gym who aren’t white/black/handsome, but they still come in several days a week and put in the work. You can’t change your race or your face (unless plastic surgery) or your height, but you can certainly change other aspects of yourself. Look, a lot of guys fixate on things that they can’t change so much so that they forget that there are things that they can change. Go to the gym. Get a positive outlook in life. Find some hobbies. Work on your career. Take a vacation. These are all things that can help you feel more confident and get a new perspective on life. There are plenty of « not so handsome » guys that are in a relationship. It’s not impossible. You just need to work for it.