Dating : Is it bad luck or is this a sign
Ok so I’m 22f and I’m not so great at dating/ talking to guys.
So I was talking to this guy for about a month and half. And I’m talking every single day we would talk for hours. I really liked this guy and he seemed to be really interested so one night I said screw it neither of us are doing anything tonight do you want me to come over. This being the first time we would met in person.
He said f*** yes so I made the 1.5 hour drive to his house, chatting the entire way about how excited he was a blah blah blah. I arrive right outside his house and text him « I’m here » and he never speaks to me again.
Completely ghosted while outside this assholes house.
Naturally I’m upset, I wait about an hour before making the 1.5 drive back home.
The next guy I talk to the exact same thing happened!! Except he was coming to me.
I haven’t talked to anyone since and I’m terrified that this what’s going to happen from now on. It’s been 2 months since this has happened.
Am I being ridiculous to be afraid this will keep happening?
It sucks that you had to learn the hard way, but never spend more than a few days talking online before you meet up. You literally wasted almost two months texting someone that wasn’t serious about meeting you.
You need to
1. Meet up in person fairly quickly at a NEUTRAL place like a coffee shop. Do not ever go to a mans place if you’ve never met him and
2. Stop working so hard for men that you’ve never met and who are not willing to work hard for you. Driving 1.5 hours (3 hours total) to hang out with a guy at his house who you’ve never met before screams desperate. I think probably unintentionally you’re coming across as very desperate to these men. However I will say both of these guys were dicks. But your dating style needs to change if your looking for anything more than a hookup.
I’d put this down to bad luck but also – as a dude – let him put in some initial effort. It can be a big deal for some people to let the first meeting happen where they live, not to defend these assholes.
Don’t offer to drive all the way there, from the get go that gives these guys all the “power”. It’s likely they weren’t expecting you to actually do it and then either freaked out outta insecurity, or had a laugh at your expense.
The circumstances suck, but every setback is a valuable lesson too. Onwards and upwards!
Best of luck
How old is this guy?
Cat fished
Dw man that’s just dating. Got really into texting with this tinder girl this one time, and then she ghosted me before the meetup. Innocence lost. If you’re new to this, just know this is unfortunately painfully normal.
Next time have them hold a paper with their name on it in a picture, sounds like catfishing.
What, I really can’t believe this. Guys are idiots, especially if they’re young. If that was me, I’d be waiting outside that whole 1.5 hour wait. Didn’t see any selfies on your profile, so I can’t add you looking good as a reason, just the fact that you’re a serious person is my only reason so far lol