Dating : Is it bad that I am 27 and have never been on a date?
I’m trying to improve myself at the moment but I just thought I would get all your opinions on it. I’m a male, and I do feel pressured before I hit my 30’s to find someone but again that mostly pressures I put on myself.
No, there are currently people who have never been on a date out there. It’s not like it’s a race to get a significant other at a certain age.
Are you living a happy life ? Try to answer that question.
Does not having a date till 27 make u bad person ? – no, why would it. It’s just an experience you haven’t made yet.
If you feel like you want to experience it / you need it to be happy / happier, just go for it.
Treat it like any hobby. Wanna go surfing, go fucking surfing. Wanna date ? Then invest your time into dating. Whether it’ll work out or not, you will see 🙂 but finding a partner can be nice process and you’ll get to meet different people.
Btw don’t let anyone shittalk you regarding the lack of experience. It doesn’t mean horseshit to way of YOUR life 😉
Here’s on major factor about relationships that needs to be accepted, you can’t control the situation no matter how much you try or desire. The nature of free will precludes that possibility, all you can control is your choices. You choose what you want, then you have to meet someone who shares those core values.
This becomes increasingly difficult the older we get as we further define ourselves and who we want to be, especially for a person who doesn’t choose to exploit others in a society that competes to be the greatest exploiter.
All you can do is stay true to yourself, and see if anyone is attracted to who you are. If you want a partner, then you have to put yourself where likeminded people are, otherwise the odds of being found are small.
Here’s something, self confidence is attractive, humor even more so. If going to the gym and getting in shape is certainly a good idea as it will add to your physical attractiveness which will transfer on into self confidence.
One more consideration, perhaps you are looking for the wrong qualities in a mate which causes you to lose interest when you finally do get their interest.
I haven’t been on a date since high school and not threw lack of trying. I don’t think it’s a big deal for most people I just really want to have a kid before I’m 25
why am i not surprised that the person in this situation is male
It’s bad if you don’t want it to be the case.
It’s good if you do want it to be the case.
Do realize that you’re going to have a way harder time after 30 if you do want to start dating then, with no experience though. People will expect you to have some idea what on earth you’re doing. As long as you are also cool with that, then carry on!
I’m curious to know the reason why you have never been on a date?
Dont compare what other have done or tried.
Some have Kids at age 18 others dont.
Feed your mind by reading, talking, traveling,
Loneliness sometimes can just be solved by finding a partner but if it’s not loneliness you find, then perhaps it’s good to first think about what you can fix in your life, because finding a partner won’t magically solve everything.
Then again a partner can be of course a very nice addition to your life. You could maybe make a deal with yourself that you try to talk to a girl every time you go out and see someone you like, or some other goal.
If you put serious effort into it, and it doesn’t work one day, don’t feel bad and just try again another day. A relationship doesn’t happen over night and neither does finding a (good) partner. As soon as you understand that the pressure will hopefully drop, especially if you combine that with actually putting some effort in.
I’m 28 and have never been on a first date. I’m really introverted so I don’t mind.
I haven’t been on a real date in years
I thought I’d be married by 25 and here I am 24 and still no date/relationship. Be patient with yourself the time will come and you shouldn’t beat yourself down over something like this. Reddit has shown me that there are so many people are age in the same boat and with the pandemic well it might be a while before we’re able to get to land and we will get there it’s just the journey has been taking it’s time. I wish you luck in your journey! You will find someone don’t give up hope!
This is going to be a unpopular opinion but yes it’s bad. Short of being undated through choice, I would assume your love life has been crap for other reasons.
Look man I’m turning 27 this year and I’m almost in the same boat. Only dated once twice so far in my entire life. Some of it isn’t my fault most of it is. I have things that need improving but I’ve also not put in the effort. I haven’t put in the effort to make myself better, I haven’t put myself out there, and I’ve been afraid of a lot. I don’t know what exactly applies to you but you have been doing things wrong, avoiding life, or been too afraid to get hurt. It could be all of the above and other reasons.
Whatever you need to work on do it, your not getting younger and you don’t want to be figuring out what you want out of a partner in your 30’s to 40’s. You also have no experience which many women, both good ones and bad one will find unattractive.
You’re completely right that it’s you putting pressure on yourself (I can relate that’s how I know lol). If you’re happy as you are then stay that way, regardless of other people questioning your decision. If you want to date then it’s a numbers game and don’t put too much pressure on each first date (i.e. thinking they need to be your gf or wife). In short, no it is a not bad 🙂
25F never been on a date. I know as I get older, this might be a red flag for some people, but when I’ll start dating when I’m actually ready to date.
Well it’s definitely not a good thing