Dating : Is there a way to actually let someone down gently?
How do you tell someone you had a ton of fun with but NO romantic attraction that you really like them but don’t want to date? I wish there was a way to do this in a way that didn’t sound like a write-off. Any ideas?
For context, I met someone from OLD and had fun but don’t want to pursue a relationship. This has happened before and I never know how up handle it. Like, you’re cool enough I appreciate you and would be friends but the thought of kissing you is out of the question.
Just say that you enjoy their company and would like to stay friends, but unfortunately you’re not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with them. It’ll hurt either way, but it’s important to be upfront with them.
tell them they are super nice and you like hanging out but didnt really feel chemistry.
« Hey I had a lot of fun yesterday, but I’m not really feeling any attraction. I don’t mind being friends, but I don’t think we should continue dating. »
Don’t be mean about it, but also don’t ghost people. A lot of guys prefer the truth and can handle it.
Just say, “I really love your company and, I also don’t want to lead you on. It’s just that after a couple of dates, I realized that we’re better off as friends. I can’t really explain it but I guess there just wasn’t a romantic spark. If you’re ok with staying friends, then I’d really appreciate that because I think you’re pretty cool.”
I had one guy try to stay my friend but it was just too awkward after a while. He sent me articles to read for a year and still asked for my opinions but, I guess he felt that it was pointless to keep talking so one day he just stopped sending me messages all together. It’s inevitable to hurt his feelings but if he shares the same sentiments as you, then it shouldn’t be a problem. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you ^_^.
For context are you a guy, or a girl?
Never interact first.
Did that person tried to advance to a romantic relationship? If not then just keep things as they are, if they try advance you just tell you’re not available.
Ghosting is the worst step to take so I suggest def don’t do anything such that. Just be honest with them and let them knowwhat u feel like.
Set them up with a hot friend.
You pretty much need to tell him what you just wrote. Make it clear you want to hang out as friends and even suggest another time and place. If he’s a guy I doubt he will go through with it but you never know he might want to orbit around you.
The biggest thing I’ve learned is the more ‘Gently’ you try to put it, sometimes gives others false hope.
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Sugarcoating seems to give other people the impression you’re not sure, or maybe there’s a chance. It’s HARD to be upfront, but it really is the best policy to save hurt feelings down the road
Just be up front about it.
Happened to me last week on a second date with a girl I liked.
She told me she had a great time and liked me, but that there was no romantic interest. Definitely not nice to hear, but better that it’s said out loud and I know where I stand.
I was on the receiving end of this just a few days ago. It sucks no matter how you word it. Just be nice I guess?
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