Dating : Is this a sign for me to leave this relationship?
guys just a question… I was quite depressed n I texted my bf ‘I feel like dying talk to you next life’ then two hours later he said he’s busy at work he will call my after work.’ I’m not sure if I should leave. Because think of a stranger sent that message to me I’d stop working take a break n call to ask if that persons ok. N I am the one he ‘loves’… I’m not sure if I’m too dramatic or should I just leave this relationship. . .
He probably didn’t take you seriously. How long have you been dating? Is there enough time and investment that he knows what red flags to look out for if you’re suicidal? Or are you “dramatic” without properly communicating to him your mental health and situation, so he thinks it’s a “the boy who cries wolf” situation.
He’s career and work focused so of course he’ll stay working if he doesn’t think it’s serious. He did say he’d call you after work. That’s responsible and still getting in contact with you.
Based on how you’re writing and phrasing everything I’m going to assume you’re extremely young, so this sounds like a case of feeling insecure and depressed.
If you are TRULY depressed, seek help. Therapy, counseling, psychiatry.
It is NOT someone else’s job (even a partners) to provide that kind of service, talk you down from suicide, or try to make you feel whole. They are there to support you as you find professionals who can do that.
Please call your suicide hotline if you’re feeling like you’re going to check out of this world. This isn’t a laughing matter to test people with. And let professionals take you seriously. Don’t put that on your boyfriend. Especially if you can’t communicate to him properly about your condition when he’s there.
You’re too dramatic. If you want your boyfriend to be your therapist, you are not suitable for a relationship.
Okay, my questions first.
1. Do you do this often?
2. Are you actually diagnosed with depression?
The reason I’m asking is because when someone says stuff like that on a weekly/monthly basis people become used to it. It should still be taken seriously but it’s just tricky when someone say ‘I wanna die’ and when you ask them why it’s because they’re out of milk and they were really craving some cereal.
Also my advice is to never expect someone to react to a situation the way you would.
But besides that I don’t see why you should end the relationship. Yes, he may replied very late and also pretty insensitive to your situation but he was busy at work and maybe he was having a rough day too. Not trying to defend him, but don’t make the mistake that your boyfriend is suppose to be your savior 24/7.
If you do need someone who picks up his phone, sees the message and drives to your house right away to check on you then this guy might not be the one.
I’m all for expressing your feelings but if you’re just feeling a little blue try to pick your words carefully.
‘Feeling super crappy, can I see you or call when you’re done working?’
If you’re truly depressed then talk to him about it and if you get thoughts like this frequently please seek professional help.