Dating : Just needed to vent about online dating
I don’t understand why dating is so difficult, that it seems almost impossible. I feel like it should be so much easier than what it is and it drives me insane.
I think online dating would probably be a tad easier though if people actually had to actually write about themselves in their bios for their profiles to be shown on the app, it would take out most of the bots and it would be easier to message people first since you’d then have a vague idea of what they’re into. Or being able to review people, like you can rate them on their conversation, humour, response time and a couple other things.
I like the mandatory bio idea but you know some people would just go ‘aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa’ to the end of their 500 characters
It’s swamped with so many girls just getting meaningless validation from thirsty guys. Plus it’s heavily skewed against men so you have all of girls going for the top 20% of guys then the rest get the bottom of the barrel and have to settle. In my experience most of the girls never put in the effort to meet, they just use it for validation.
I am a woman that completely ignores her inbox and messages men who put effort into their profiles. Saves so much time sifting through trash.
Most people just decide based on the pics apparently.
I don’t know if you’ve tried Hinge or not, but that was one of my favourite dating apps (and I met my current boyfriend on Tinder, so I feel like that says a lot).
If you haven’t tried Hinge, people answer ~5 questions about themselves. You can also tell the app whether or not you met the person irl and how it went, so it helps weed out the bad people too.
Sure, some people don’t answer the 5 questions but I found that was like 2/10 people wouldn’t take that part seriously.
Dating *is* fucking difficult, but you have to remind yourself that realistically you’re going to end up with *one person* at the end of it, so having shorter flings is okay because it’s really worth it to not waste your time on the people that aren’t *that one person.*
You should be swiping left on people who don’t have bios anyways, so…
because hypergamy
Yeah, I notice that ugly women do write extensive profiles. I as an ugly guy do the same.
When I put a really good picture in my profile then suddenly women suddenly start messaging me, but a picture where you can see my double chin… then it’s nothing.
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Its not difficult, its easier, your just not the type they are interested in. Dont over think it, its really that easy.
Just keep trying. You’ll meet the right person eventually. It’s not like meeting people irl is any easier.