Dating : Lack of positivity
I have been told that positivity and a sense of humor are important in attraction and dating from a few people. I’ve also read that in some posts. That worries me because I’m not very positive and I come across as kind of serious at first. I do have depression so that probably plays into it.
Anyway if anyone has any advice I’m open to hearing it.
Being serious and being positive aren’t contradictory. Treating your depression and working to improve your mindset is the best way to address that problem. You don’t have to pretend to be someone other than yourself though, and don’t worry about what hypothetical people think about you.
If there are things you’re passionate about, make a mental list of those things to help you focus on those when you’re talking to people. Stuff you’re passionate about tend to be things you’re going to be less negative about, or at least, less negative in a bad way. For example I’ve been having issues with an order for equipment for a hobby I’m into, which I complain about, but it’s a very different sort of complaining than if I was being pessimistic about something.
Have you ever thought of getting therapy for your depression? It could really help for you, and I’m sure it would make you happier.