Dating : Lawdy Me!
So I had a second date today with a guy I met through OLD. We’ve been messaging heaps, and really seemed to be clicking. However, he’s very nervous about dating because he took some emotional damage from his previous relationship ending, two years ago. I took some hailstones myself, when mine ended one year ago. I held his hand for a sec today, and he pulled away, saying sorry, but he wasnt feeling sure about what this is. So either he’s terrified of getting into something new, or he’s just not that into me. I’m a pretty « speak my mind » kind of person, and because I am a plus size woman, I really needed to know if it was one of those « You’re really awesome but… » (you’re fat) situations. So I just asked him if there was any attraction, at end of the date. He said something nice about my personality, and I told him that wasnt what I meant. He then said « There is, to a degree ».
I sent him a meme on my way home poking fun at my inner shock at that moment, and his response was embarrassment, I think – « Oh God, I cant deal! I had a few drinks. I should go back into my shell now ».
We’ve since been texting playfully, exchanging memes etc, but not gonna lie, I’ve been trying to get him to explain the whole « to a degree thing », less and less subtly as the night went on. I am now VERY unsatisfied with the amount of prodding I’ve done, and am starting to feel like Ive made myself look like a nutter.
Can anyone help me untangle this mess??
Or shall I just crawl back into my shell also?
don’t bother chasing a man who makes you question your body!
Just ask him if he thinks you’re fat and if that bothers him.
If he thinks you are not attractive to him, why he went on a date with you unless you did not have your full body pic in your profile. If you have a pic of your body then he is interested.
Maybe there is not a lot of chemistry etc, maybe he is not ready yet.
Remember he is not the last guy on earth.