Dating : Let’s bring some sugar in here
Oh come on guys! Give me some positive nice stories here to break the complaining and negativity.
Share how you found your love and how and why it was so special and amazing.
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Dating : Is everyone desperate for a partner or am I crazy?
Short story: a year ago I dated with a really amazing girl. We went out for 2 dates, and it was great, one of the best moments of my life. In the second one we played cards and we said the winner had to pay the bill (yeah the winner XD). I was thrilled to see how good and competitive she was. I fell in love instantly there, she apparently didn’t but never mind. It was certainly a special date indeed.
I met my boyfriend on okcupid over a year ago. At the time, we talked for maybe a week, but conversation fizzled out and we never met. I really couldn’t tell you why. I don’t remember but I assume either one of us weren’t in the right headspace. Afterwards, we would share a short conversation every couple of months then go back to radio silence. I moved on to date other people and so did he.
5 months of silence passed and I honestly forgot about him. I was on Instagram one day, and “people you may know “ was shoved into my face. I recognized the guy in one of the profiles, and memories came back. Despite never dating, I did feel guilty for leaving his last message hanging for 5 months. I sent him a message on discord (where we had been communicating) and started chatting again. There wasn’t any animosity from his end, and it was just fun.
I was single at this point, but I honestly didn’t intend to pursue something romantic with the guy. It was the weaning period of covid, we were both vaccinated and bored, and met up very soon after chatting. We kept talking after the meetup and hung out again. Something about the hang outs made my instincts tell me that he was potentially interested in me. A little voice in the back of my head initially made me hesitate to ask him upfront, because I was afraid that he was just really friendly and possibly had a girlfriend already. I dispelled that thought and flat out asked him if he was interested in dating, which made him flustered and disappointed because he wanted to talk about that with me in person, but I beat him to it haha.
We continued to talk every day and hang out whenever we had time, and gradually became super smitten and totally in love. We haven’t been in this relationship for that long, and we have had arguments, but I genuinely feel really happy to be with him. I feel so refreshed to love a person who genuinely loves me back.
Occasionally, we do reminisce about how we first met, then met again a year later, but we both agree that maybe that was for the best. And maybe it doesn’t matter at all, because that was then and we’re happy now.
Went to a job interview. Interviewer and i talked for two hours about scifi and respective writing projects. Worked together for a year. Broke up with abusive partners in the same week (mine was physical his was financial) moved in together. Never looked back.
Taking a break from dating and not letting my success in dating be the main way I valued myself really helped me, I was able to realign myself and critically think about my value and what made me happy. Now that I’m trying again, I don’t get depressed about the lack of success, because I’m happy regardless of how that wind blows.
I guess I’m sharing our story because even when you feel like your life isn’t in the place you want it to be, there is still hope for finding someone who will want you regardless of your shitty situation. My boyfriend says « I can’t believe you gave me a chance when I was sleeping on someone’s couch » but I remind him that I fell for him, not his living situation.
Boyfriend & I met on Hinge around Halloween last year. At that time, he was staying on his friend’s couch after covid threw his stable job & apartment to the fan. I was also unemployed & going through mental health issues. We basically met at some of the worst points in our lives. Because of covid, we were online for the first 4.5 months but we did have 3 dates in person where he was on one side of the glass door & I was on the other (he asked we take a picture to laugh at in the future lol). I’m currently living in my mum’s old house whilst they renovate it to sell & there was an additional spare room, so after all these months I took the major risk of suggesting he rent the spare room from my mum. He moved into that room mid March. We were both aware that this step could have ended terribly but I think because we both genuinely like each other & are adults about things & communicate well, its actually worked out really really well! Its been a little overwhelming (in a good way!) to have a healthy relationship for once lol! We both feel very lucky to have found each other during some of the weirdest times of our lives.
So don’t give up. The right person for you will like you regardless of your living situation or employment status. If the person really cares about that shit then they weren’t meant for you & you’ve dodged a bullet lol.
Found myself single for the first time in my life in my 30s after a very long relationship, messed me up bad. Decided I needed a fresh start. Took a new job hundreds of miles away from everyone I knew and loved, was a big upward career move. Worked out and lost a lot of weight, quit drinking, made new friends. Got a new wardrobe, looked good and felt good. After 6 months I felt like I had everything together and I wanted to date but had no idea what to do. Hired an online dating consultant, learned as much as I could. Put myself out there, slogged through that total quagmire. Messaged thousands of women. Got into a few relationships over 2 years but none of them worked out. I was messaging this woman on OkCupid, kinda just going through the motions, asked her out to coffee. She ended up cancelling and rescheduling on me 3 times, I felt like she was losing interest, but we did finally meet up. We had good conversation but she seemed off, I wasn’t sure if I wanted a second date. I talked to my best friend and he was like « dude stop being an idiot, she’s just nervous and really into you, ask her out tonight. » I did and everything just flowed, sparks flew and we really matched up well. 2 years 2 months later we’re engaged and have a kid together. I couldn’t be happier.
I met my boyfriend on Tinder mid-February this year. Honestly, I began chatting with him without any expectations just because it was Tinder & he was one out of 2 guys I swiped right on after joining that app for only 2-3 days. It took us 3 weeks to meet each other in person because I was hesitant and he never pressured me to meet. After a little over a month of getting to know each other, I asked him if he saw anything serious happening between us in the future. When he told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship, I decided to end whatever we had at that time. What I thought would be the end between us wasn’t because I began to miss his company. I decided to text him again a week later to ask if we can remain friends and see each other once in awhile. I was so damn nervous, but luckily he was very kind and agreed to it.
Our relationship turned into a FWB situation without us actually discussing it. We did things that official couples would do. I was still chatting with other guys because I wasn’t sure how he felt about me, but at a certain point, I began to see a nice shift in our relationship. He began to contact me every day. Made sure to tell me good night every evening. Ask to hang out just to see my face. We became exclusive following a trip he took by himself. I deleted all the dating apps from my phone. While he was away on that trip, we discovered how we truly felt for one another. A little over a week later, we became an official couple.
I still remember the night he asked me to be his girlfriend. The first thing he did when he saw me was give me a nice, long kiss. It was a nice, warm evening and we were just chatting and laughing a lot. We’re nearing 2 months into our relationship now. It hasn’t been long and we’re still getting to know each other, but we’re happy. I can actually feel the feelings I have for him grow every day. He has told me several times that he’s a lucky guy, but I truly think I’m a lucky girl to have met him.
I know my other comment in another sub about my OLD experience was negative, but I do have one positive from it.
I dated someone back at the beginning of June. We went on three dates, and really seemed to like each other. Then she had some serious personal issues, and told me she wasn’t in a good place to be dating right now. I usually don’t offer to be friends with anyone who doesn’t want to date anymore, but I really liked her regardless of whether or not we were dating. We are still friends and she even came over to my place for dinner last week.
So even though I didn’t gain a romantic relationship from OLD I did gain a friend which I am grateful for since I can be a bit picky on who I have as friends.
Met her 13 years ago about an hr from my house. Bought her dinner and she stayed at mine. Never left. I make her dinner every night and she loves cuddles.
She’s my cat.
This will probably only get responses from women; I don’t think it goes well for dudes ever.
& If you’re undersized there’s even more … »fun »
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