Dating : Letting yourself see a future where things work out between you is the biggest obstical to getting over hern.
It’s been almost 6 months since I ended it. It needed to happen it was toxic and she refused to settle down. I am almost over it. I can see the good and the bad in our relationships. One huge obstacle to letting it go entirely is this fantasy that she will contact me and say everything I want to hear. It’s crazy. I know. But I feel like it’s the last battle in this war. If your comments can help me square this faster the post is worth it to me.
How long were you together? I’ve learned this over time as I’ve gotten older, the only thing that heals a broken heart is time. Right now it seems engulfing, you can’t get it off your mind but everyday it will get easier to deal with and one day you’ll wake up and you’ll be okay again.
In the mean time, distract yourself, keep yourself busy with things you enjoy doing. Spend time with friends, gain a new hobby, maybe try to go on a few casual dates to build your confidence.
Time will heal
I was somewhat taken aback when I began to read your post. A strange deja Vu feeling wrapped around me. It was like I had written this post, down to the punctuation. In other words, our situations seem eerily similar. For this reason my advice would more than likely be no more than smoke and mirrors. I can’t tell you that it will get better. I can’t tell you that it will get easier. I can tell you that you aren’t alone. I can also tell you that running across your post, in some strange and acute way, put me at ease. Maybe this will do the same for you.
Hmmm if she happens not to explain or ghosted you. Maybe it’s really time to move on, please. Or atleast you try one more time to reach her out for you to really satisfy yourself; how things went wrong. If you had already tried the luck, but nothing happened. It is the real time to move on. Yes, there are some relationships that has no proper closure, yes it pains a lot.
But make yourself a priority, love yourself. If you can no longer please someone to stay and love you nothing is worth than giving yourself priority first. Little by little, you’ll soon realized that even you had given all the love you had to but it doesn’t sill pan out fine. Let go. Move on already whilst you can still help yourself.
Good luck on you. If you need someone to talk. You are free to message me.